Trying to move forward

I was reading my story and wanted to updte the new developments. Well on Aug 21, I was told by my co-worker ( whose sister works with the OW) that they were definatley seen together around the hospital in and out of the many stairwells. He had no choice to tell me . I don't know if he would have told me . So now I'm trying and not feeling like my heart is always into it and not really sure I want ot be with some one who lied to my face repeatly overe and over for the past 6 months.. 

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dellenr
dellenr

Awe, I\'m so sorry to hear this Chewdy....

Is he\'s still seeing the OW? Is he trying to have his cake and eat it too? The decision needs to be does he want to let that go, or risk losing you forever? (Just my two cents..)

Be well,

D-
chewdy
chewdy

I\'m sure he has contact with her at work ( they work at the same hospital) This is why I don\'t think he is so open with his email.I think he knows he will lose me forever and that\'s what the problem is. I am getting to the point that I just want to let go.
deleted_user
deleted_user

If lets assume, his being seen with her was just innocent, like they have to kinda talk because they work together (not sure if this is the case) COMPLETE HONESTY is the only way u can rebuild things.... See if they are doing something innocent, they should not be secretive because then it makes them look like they are doing something wrong, when they are not. The only way to build trust is to be forthcoming with stuff like this. Like my husband told me when this girl texted him.... I was happy because that meant he respected me and felt I deserved to know, but it also showed he wasnt doing anything wrong. I cant blame him for someone elses actions, only his own... Good luck with all this, I am here if u want advice or to vent!
deleted_user
deleted_user

It really sounds like we have been through the same thing. But my husband did it for years! I am so sorry about this forced change in your life.