Trying to Heal
I "friend" of mine told me that I must be codependent because I was choosing to try and work it out with my H after over 4 years of him lying and cheating. With my self esteem so very much affected I wasn't sure so i bought the book The New Codepency by Melody Beattie. After reading it I am pretty sure codependecy is not really an issue with me but it had some really good insights.
1." Grieving- Obsession is an important part of grieving and healing our hearts from our loss. We need to tell the story of our loss repeatedly to make it real and to believe the story ourselves. When we are telling the story over and over what we are really doing is working hard to integrate and accept something that is not yea acceptable to us." I not only had to retell the story over and over I had to know the story too. Hence the asking a milliion questions.
2 "Self appreciation doesn't depend on deserving. It happens when we let ourselves be who we are. How we feel about ourselves affects hhow others fell about us. We create a field around us with our thoughts. When people look at us, they see this field like a cloak we wear. Let our beauty shine from the inside out so the world know how beautiful we are. Give ourselves a confidence boost. Let ourselves feel our emotions instead of telling ourselves what we feel is wrong. Tell ourseves we are forgivable no matter what we have done." Wearing the cloak really works on how people respond to me.
I am glad I read this book. It has been insightful as I try and heal. I still sometimes feel foolish about taking him back but I believe he is truly remorseful.
1." Grieving- Obsession is an important part of grieving and healing our hearts from our loss. We need to tell the story of our loss repeatedly to make it real and to believe the story ourselves. When we are telling the story over and over what we are really doing is working hard to integrate and accept something that is not yea acceptable to us." I not only had to retell the story over and over I had to know the story too. Hence the asking a milliion questions.
2 "Self appreciation doesn't depend on deserving. It happens when we let ourselves be who we are. How we feel about ourselves affects hhow others fell about us. We create a field around us with our thoughts. When people look at us, they see this field like a cloak we wear. Let our beauty shine from the inside out so the world know how beautiful we are. Give ourselves a confidence boost. Let ourselves feel our emotions instead of telling ourselves what we feel is wrong. Tell ourseves we are forgivable no matter what we have done." Wearing the cloak really works on how people respond to me.
I am glad I read this book. It has been insightful as I try and heal. I still sometimes feel foolish about taking him back but I believe he is truly remorseful.
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