Trying to \"detach\"

My focus right now is on trying to move Hanna out of the center of my life.  My fiance and I just bought a new home and we're packing today and moving some things over to the house.  I've been trying to pick out paint colors and carpet and all the things that you have to think about when you start to make a home your own.  I know I need to do these things, but this strange guilt for carrying on keeps creeping into my thinking.  I've never had a home that Hanna wasn't a part of.  She removed me from the "consent list" at the rehab where she is yesterday.  I don't even understand why she did it.  My sister thinks it's just another manipulation.  It hurts me to know how Hanna is distancing herself from the whole family.  I know they say things about her that are accurate, but it still stings....even when I know something is true I still feel a little defensive.  I'm afraid they'll never see her in the same light again.  She a brilliant girl....a history major, who is politically active and concerned about human rights and direction that our country is taking.  This person that I've talked to on the phone over the past several weeks is hardly a shadow of who she really is.  I miss her so much.  I want to detach for my own good, but I'm afraid I'm losing her forever.