Total shock, and now reflection....

Last night Bret paid me a surprise visit.  I had not heard from in over a year, and he just came to my house unannounced.  He said they were in McKinney since it was Memorial Day, visiting Lindsay's dad, so he decided to drive up.  He was alone, without Lindsay, which was HUGE for him.  He had always said he would not come without her, because "they are family".  But he did.  He did not, however, bring the babies, which grieved me since we haven't even met the youngest one, but so be it.  I was so happy I just kissed him and hugged him over and over and over again.  I wanted to ask a million questions...like why has he treated me so badly?  Why has he ignored me?  Why did he let Lindsay send me that horrible last message saying I wasn't allowed to come see the babies on Easter?  Why, why, why?  Yet I didn't say a word, I was just so happy to see him.  And he acted like nothing had ever happened!  And so this morning, I am reflecting....since he acts like nothing ever happened, I wonder if he will pretend THIS visit never happened either.  Will another year go by without me hearing from him?  Should I have confronted him and demanded answers?  It just didn't seem like the thing to do.  I didn't want to scare him off.  Of course now I am wondering...what was his real reason for coming?  He said he was looking for his childhood teddy bear to give to his sons.  He had mentioned that bear before, and I had an idea it was up in that attic, but I never actually looked for it until last night and the two of us together went up and found it.  Surely that wasn't the real reason he came....for a 29 year old teddy bear?!?  He seemed sweet to me, and loving, but I know I have been through this before with him. I am not fooling myself into believing all is well now.  But he DID come, and he came alone.  And I got to see my son, and it was an answered prayer. I will continue to pray fervently for him.

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2getup
2getup

I am so thrilled. Please be happy for this experience. (Remember how sad others are.)
poodlegirl61
poodlegirl61

You are right. I am happy in the moment and this tells me he DOES think about us, at least some time. As he left, I told him his visit had not only made my day, but my whole year so far!