TOP OF THE LIST-WHAT NOT TO SAY

Hi all, I was laying here thinking about the last two weeks, the hospital, everything anyway I am not sure but I think I got the TOP OF THE LIST comments someone can say upon hearing I lost my son.  
I was very upset being in the hospital to begin with, not only the pain, surgery, etc, but of course the last time I was in a hospital was when Ken went to Heaven (5months today).  Of course, I talked about it constantly, even as I was coming out of the surgery and totally out of it.   If a nurse came in a tech, a doctor, I was telling them or crying and my husband would tell them what had happened.  Well, most of the comments were of course like the ones we all here, I'm sorry, How terrible, It must feel just horrible, I can't imagine, all of you know the comments but the one that got me and Is Totally at the Top of the List a nurse leans over in my ear and whispers:
"If it makes you feel any better, my grandson is dying".  
If I could have sit up or moved or anything, I think I would have totally chocked HER and beat her up.  HOW can anyone think that of someone else dying can make my loss or your loss any easier.  We that have gone through this do not wish this on anyone.  Talk about WHAT NOT TO SAY