too much stress

Baby Iysabella came home from the hospital on Sunday. She, her mom & her dad were going to live with my daughter-in-law. Christina is 18 almost 19 and Terrell is 17 almost 18 so we thought it would be good if they stayed with family. The problem is my DIL loves crisis and so that evening she, my grandson Josh who functions much of the time in anger since Ed's passing and Terrell got into a big argument & Chrsitina called me sobbing hysterically at 11:00 pm that Josh & Terrell were fighting. And it got physical. My DIL has instigated much of this confrontation that was coming sooner or later. The details are ridiculous so I won't even repeat it Are you kidding?! With a 5 day old baby in the house?!
Christina asked me to come get her & the baby & Terrell so I did. Ken was kind of mad. He doesn't like his little world shaken up so he started yelling at me. I calmly said, "let's not forget I practically raised your 2 sons & a 5 day old baby is involved!!!" He quickly apologized, ( I think he was a little scared of me, lol) and I went to my DIL's where I was met at the door with her screaming at me, "You better get him outta here!" Are you kidding!?! (I say that a lot don't I? lol - must make jokes or cry!). I didn't say this because people were all ramped up but who moved Terrell into her house to begin with? And let him sleep in my granddaughter's bed?! Yep, my DIL!! Shocking she turned up pregnant!(I do adore the baby though - Iysabella is a blessing).
So suffice it to say the 3 of them are living with me now. The baby is just precious and I won't turn my granddaughter or Iysabella out but yikes! I hate the drama. Christina's been crying because she hates the fighting, misses her family, misses Ed & just had a baby.
The good news is they are wonderful parents, (cuz I'm watching). The baby is clean, Christina's nursing, and they both jump when she cries.
I cried too all of Sunday night and didn't sleep much so got a raging migraine yesterday & had to call in sick. This stuff makes me miss Eddie more. I feel like his kids are falling apart without him. And its hard. Please say some prayers for healing for my family.
Love and peace to all. Love, Linda

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CorriesMom
CorriesMom

Prayers of healing on their way! So much going on. Extra stress, physical illness, fighting ~ these all make working through our grief so much harder. Of course you miss Eddie more right now, as does everyone else. My guess is that once life settles down a bit, you will really enjoy having Christina, Terrell and Baby Iysabella so close. And when the time is right, the new little family will find their way to their own place. In my opinion, things are not falling apart ~ they are doing what dogs do before lying down ~ walking in circles and preparing the new order of life.

Sending much love and big hugs to all ~ Debbie
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deleted_user

Prayers are said and on the way! You are awesome......I have a saying that I learned from a professor somewhere around 1968...an Eng. prof....I don\'t remember the book we were studying, but he said to us, \"Home is a place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in.\" I\'ve never forgotten it. How true, how true. There must be a little piece of God inside all parents.....the compassion comes through even if you\'re scared to death of the consequences. I pray all settles down, including hormones, and that your world will once again become peaceful. Bless you and all involved.

Becky
annsullivan
annsullivan

Take care & enjoy Iysabella. I am sure your granddaughter emotions are all over the place. All you can do is what you think is best in the situation. I always wonder what parents think is going to happen when the boyfriend spends the night when they are way to young to handle the consequences. I guess they found out...Oh well, I am sending lots of happy energy and prayers your way that you may find a gentle peace in each and every day. Hugs, Ann
NoraMc
NoraMc

prayers are easy said...so you have them....mending family is not easy,,, i hope all the wrinkles of the family get straight real soon,,,,peace, Nora
deleted_user
deleted_user

This will pass! Iysabella will be fine, you will be fine, all will be fine. Hard to imagine right now in the midst of this maelstrom but it\'s just the way things go as Debbie said. Hormones all over the place! We all have these things in our family, unfortunately. Especially when people should be on their best behavior!

I\'ll say a prayer for you that you can simply enjoy Iysabella. As it should be.

Love,

Soos
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deleted_user

Prayers for peace all around.
Missinglisa
Missinglisa

Dear Linda: I am praying. I am thankful that they are good parents. There is nothing like a baby in the house!!
I wish you and Eddie peace and love,
Marlene
deleted_user
deleted_user

So sorry that you are having to deal with all of the drama but you are the one who is likely to be the \"savior\" for them......we can never turn our backs on grandchildren...can we? God bless your heart ....you are doing the best you can....love and patience, dear sweet friend....dale, brandon\'s mom
heartsandhands
heartsandhands

Linda, everyone must be way past exhausted. Let\'s hit the re-set button and start this blessed \'baby-moon\' all over again! I am sending big thank you\'s to the sky tonight for YOU and the way your strength is holding people together and shining a light of hope in your family\'s life. You really are special.
Big hugs,
Sarah
Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

Sending you all the strength and courage just for today... I know you are a solid loving household for this little family and that is what they are needing. Linda, take care of you in the midst. When you are giving so much of yourself at work and at home your reserves can become so low. Do what you can to fill yourself, promise?! Sending you love and light and I know those grammy arms are not tiring with that precious bundle. Much love, Joanie
deleted_user
deleted_user

I am so very sorry that all this has to be going on now! How often the enemy gets his hooks in during a time that\'s supposed to be all about love, new life and joy. I am like you, I hate the drama. Especially after you\'ve lost your child, I think it\'s harder to put up with this kind of stress--preventable-- if only people would just settle down and get along! I will keep you in my prayers and I agree with the others to remember to take some time to recharge you, as you give so selflessly of yourself. Please be careful not to take on too much more, as you\'re already carrying a heavy load, dealing with the loss of wonderful Eddie. I bet that beautiful Iysabella\'s sweet cherub face renews your Spirit every time you see the little angel, so fresh from God! (((Love+Hugs)))
deleted_user
deleted_user

Bless your heart. You have such a good attitude despite all the drama! I am so glad that the baby is out of that atmosphere and in a loving environment! Linda
deleted_user
deleted_user

I\'m so glad they are with you. I\'m sorry about the arguing, that can\'t help things much. Just being in a different environment will help all of them. I hope Ken will be ok with it. My thoughts are with you. Enjoy that sweet baby.
biowoman
biowoman

Life takes us in unexpected directions...love is present in your life...so allow that little girl to bring you daily smiles and a purpose...love to you...Karen
MitchellsMom
MitchellsMom

Often life changes, even good ones can bring on stress within a family.It is so wonderful that you have taken Christina, Terrell and baby Iysabella in.Maybe you and Ken can not only offer love and support, but a home full of peace and normality and right now that is what the 3 of them need.I can\'t imagine how much Christina misses her dad at this very special time in her life...thank God she has you.When the stress gets overwhelming, maybe it might help if you hold baby Iysabella in your arms and rock her to sleep.I was always the most relaxed when I was rocking my precious grandbabies....nothing like it in the world.I will be thinking about your family and lifting you all up in prayer.Hugging you Really Tight, Charlene