Today is Not a good day

Yesterday I had another argument with my grown daughter.  This time not over the phone but on Facebook Instant message feature.  It is so different than speaking on the phone. were we end up talking over each other and not listening.  Will this time we both had to listen.  I cannot believe that my daughter will not be there for me unless I am dying because she told me I was not there for her ever.  I always tried to be there for my daughter but if it was not in the way she wanted then that she considered not being there for her.  She tells me she will do something nice for me like grocery shopping that day and then never does anything she commits to doing.  I have learned to never ask her for anything but she still offers and then I buy into her offers, stupid me.  She thinks I want to control her when I tell her she is being controlled by her boyfriend.  They have had a abusive relationship were they both lose their temper and hit each other.  They are not a good match and when she was in the process of breaking up with him 8 times and moving back in with me each time I somehow got her directed to enrolling in Anger Management and Partner Abuse Classes.  She also goes to another support group were her sponsor gives her strange advice according to all her friends and myself and she follows it.  I am worried that her sponsor cannot see how dysfunctional she is.  After last night I told my daughter I need a long break from her.  I need to concentrate on myself and making healthy boundaries were she is concern.  I also am having a problem with my roommate of two years apparently he lied about himself and bragged about how rich he was and his family.  I loaned him money and now he is not paying me back and has hid my collateral his car and now I must go through the task of repossessing his car which I have never done before and really scares me to do this by myself.  Imagine waking up one day and learning everything you knew about someone is a lie.  They really messes with your believe system.