today I am wondering
Me and my honey got into an argument, I feel so confused when he gets mad over trivial crap and then gives me the silent treatment.
Idk what you want to call it, but yesterday morning I gave my honey a call and he said that he was at a friends house, he told me who's house but I won't say just for the sake of confidentiality. He was supposedly at a male friends house yesterday morning, but what go me was that when he called he was giggling uncontrollably, and couldn't stop. I then got suspicious and asked where he was at and who was he with. He said his name, but I don't believe him, not with the way he was giggling. Anyway when I went to hang up (we tell each other we love each other), he had a hard time responding to me, I just said "yeah" and hung up because there was people in here with me at my office.
It drove me crazy, so I had him come bring me lunch also yesterday well it turns out I had to work through my lunch and I didn't want to call him on our co phone and well he showed up and found me not there, I had to go off property for an errand. Well when I returned, he wasn't there, understandable, I went on with my day, he left my lunch and I ate lunch on property. Well I called to check on him later on that day, no answer, and then again later on as I work 10 hr days. So that was twice he didn't answer my calls. Well later on in the eve he called to see when I needed to be picked up I gave him the time, and he was short with me. ugh....like I can control what my boss tells me what to do.
So we argued when i got off work because I didn't call him to let him know I was working through lunch and wasn't going to be able to meet him. It sucked for me too, and needless to say I was hungry, but hey it's my job and I got to do it regardless. Well he said I should of at least gave him a heads up. ugh!!! I didn't want to get in trouble for using co time and money using the phone to check in like a little girl.
Well he told me...
"I don't want to argue so just shhh!!"
me: "well be quiet"
him:"mumble"
Me: be quiet then...
him: mumble some more,
me OMG quiet
so anyway, he finally got quiet because we arrived home, he gave me the keys cause we got keys for our rooms and I went on in. Left him there to sulk, over some foolish thing as me working through my paid lunch. ugh.
Well later on that eve. he end up staying out in his truck and fell asleep and I woke him up to come to bed, he went to the restroom and stayed in there not doing anything just sitting there?! So i asked him can you turn the light off so I can go to sleep. So all together he pouted at me for 12 frickin hrs?! ugh!!!!
So when I finally got tired of him pouting, I told him to grow some.... and leave if that is what he wants to do... and stop playing head games with me!!!!
Well I left for work this morning and arrived ten mins late because I had a hard time sleeping and am so tired today, but i love my job.
On top of all that, I forgot to tell my sister I had to go to work and she got up and yelled at my girls for there chores. And like if they are adults and cussin at them and screaming at the top of her lungs. Its so frustrating what I have to put up with. My honey called to tell me this, he was clearly upset about the whole thing, I told him to take the kids today if they needed a break, and I would make them leave today,because my children don't deserve that. I know she loves them, but she is just messed up in the head and needs to take care of herself, she is an alcoholic/drug addict, and also diabetic on top of all that.
My sister claims to stay with me so she can sober up, to me sober is alcohol and drug free, but she still gets high, it's whe she comes down that she gets mean with my children, and today she has them in her care.
Idk what you want to call it, but yesterday morning I gave my honey a call and he said that he was at a friends house, he told me who's house but I won't say just for the sake of confidentiality. He was supposedly at a male friends house yesterday morning, but what go me was that when he called he was giggling uncontrollably, and couldn't stop. I then got suspicious and asked where he was at and who was he with. He said his name, but I don't believe him, not with the way he was giggling. Anyway when I went to hang up (we tell each other we love each other), he had a hard time responding to me, I just said "yeah" and hung up because there was people in here with me at my office.
It drove me crazy, so I had him come bring me lunch also yesterday well it turns out I had to work through my lunch and I didn't want to call him on our co phone and well he showed up and found me not there, I had to go off property for an errand. Well when I returned, he wasn't there, understandable, I went on with my day, he left my lunch and I ate lunch on property. Well I called to check on him later on that day, no answer, and then again later on as I work 10 hr days. So that was twice he didn't answer my calls. Well later on in the eve he called to see when I needed to be picked up I gave him the time, and he was short with me. ugh....like I can control what my boss tells me what to do.
So we argued when i got off work because I didn't call him to let him know I was working through lunch and wasn't going to be able to meet him. It sucked for me too, and needless to say I was hungry, but hey it's my job and I got to do it regardless. Well he said I should of at least gave him a heads up. ugh!!! I didn't want to get in trouble for using co time and money using the phone to check in like a little girl.
Well he told me...
"I don't want to argue so just shhh!!"
me: "well be quiet"
him:"mumble"
Me: be quiet then...
him: mumble some more,
me OMG quiet
so anyway, he finally got quiet because we arrived home, he gave me the keys cause we got keys for our rooms and I went on in. Left him there to sulk, over some foolish thing as me working through my paid lunch. ugh.
Well later on that eve. he end up staying out in his truck and fell asleep and I woke him up to come to bed, he went to the restroom and stayed in there not doing anything just sitting there?! So i asked him can you turn the light off so I can go to sleep. So all together he pouted at me for 12 frickin hrs?! ugh!!!!
So when I finally got tired of him pouting, I told him to grow some.... and leave if that is what he wants to do... and stop playing head games with me!!!!
Well I left for work this morning and arrived ten mins late because I had a hard time sleeping and am so tired today, but i love my job.
On top of all that, I forgot to tell my sister I had to go to work and she got up and yelled at my girls for there chores. And like if they are adults and cussin at them and screaming at the top of her lungs. Its so frustrating what I have to put up with. My honey called to tell me this, he was clearly upset about the whole thing, I told him to take the kids today if they needed a break, and I would make them leave today,because my children don't deserve that. I know she loves them, but she is just messed up in the head and needs to take care of herself, she is an alcoholic/drug addict, and also diabetic on top of all that.
My sister claims to stay with me so she can sober up, to me sober is alcohol and drug free, but she still gets high, it's whe she comes down that she gets mean with my children, and today she has them in her care.
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Sounds like you had a frustrating day! I hope it gets better. It is pretty selfish of him to pout about you having to work through lunch, because you were working hard and I\'m sure you would have liked to take a break if you could. Have your tried to talk to your sister at all? I am not sure if she is someone you could reason with or not, but if so maybe try reminding her not to use language around the kids. I hope things get better!
yeah when i try to approach the subject she jumps at the chance to explain herself and then apologizes only to do it again.
My honey he is ok today, we kind of argued over his mom buying stuff for him, it was more like a disagreement. It was me that started it though. Because I told him we needed to find better combs, so i was going to look at our local beauty store for some quality combs that won\'t break our hair, and then he said, \"no, I\'ll ask my mom to buy us a few combs from where she bought my last comb\"
I got upset about it and said \"ok I won\'t buy a comb, just let your mom buy your combs.\"
he didn\'t understand my hurt and that I was insulted by his comment.
So now we are ok again, but it bothers me when he tells me stuff like that after I was going to do it for us.
Clearly a momma\'s boy
I hate being so independant. I told him if she offered it without our asking I would gladly accept it, but not if he asked her that would be different. My pride gets stomped on then. As his woman, i would feel obligated to give her something back.
giving you the silent tx is abuse. it\'s not right and it hurts. i am sos orry youa re going through this. hugs to you