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I need to know...what do you call someone who insults you, doesnt contact you for weeks then on your birthday sends a nice text then ghosts you again? This is what my ex does. Just when I think he is not going to contact me out of the blue he does. But why? Need advice. I dont uunderstand him at all. I got out of the house today to buy hinges for my project which is about complete. It is sunny here today with no sign of hurricane coming but Iam sure the rain will hit later in the week. Roomie is working on the Nova he bought which i think buying was a huge mistake. He needed major dental work and instead spent 90% on a Nova that needs restoring. Another red flag for me. He bought sent roses to my office last week but yesterday was my birthday and he admitted hed forgotten what day it was on. So I dont know if the roses were for the birthday or because ive been distant trying to plan a future by myself. It was nice ha ing the day off. I slept my birthday day pretty much all day. Birthdays are not easy for me. I did not hear again from my adult estranged daughter. It gets easier every year not to care.
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I think it's just a matter of time before you hear from your daughter...
Your ex still has feelings for you but it sounds like he is immature and doesn't know how to handle them. It sounds like he is lacking in patience and doesn't take the time to think through his thoughts before he speaks or reacts to something external. That's just my humble opinion without knowing more details but I use to be like that. I use to be immature and I had a fear that I would lose my girlfriend and when I did, I tried to get her back because I hated that feeling of rejection.. She wasn't someone who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with but she had a few good qualities which I wasn't ready to let go of because I had no replacement at the time. If I could have remained her fb then I would have been happy with that but she just dumped me for someone else which made me feel like I wasn't good enough, I couldn't satisfy her enough, and I couldn't make her happy so I tried many different ways to get her back including waiting a few weeks and then doing something nice for her and at one point it worked but by then, I was already seeing someone else.
good luck and let us know how it works out
I reserve the right to get creative in what I call people who insult me, but for the rest, I could call that, "Me." My social anxiety makes it hard for me to be the most consistent lover on the planet. Good thing I married a compassionate man instead of a traditional woman, huh?
Yay you that you didn't let the unwelcome contact derail your project. Staying busy with other stuff is what I do when I am anxious over unwelcome contact.
Bob,
The thing is....i really love this guy but.. the timings all off. Ive signed this lease, have very little money saved. Could sleep in my car again but why do that if im paying rent here? I have no relatives and no friends to help me so the only thing i can think is maybe im suppose to be here...maybe theres a reason why everything is so difficult for me right now. Ive doubled my meds to cope. Im in a new city where i dont know anyone. Its hard. I just dont know what to do anymore. :(
I think you are on to something like you said. Maybe you are suppose to be where you are right now! That's it! Acceptance is the key. Maybe it's best to just accept where you are right now, stay there for the time left on the lease and then see what happens!