Time to cut off!
I feel good! Last week I had a very upsetting phone call from one of my late husband's brothers. I was in tears. Then I realized that I have only received negativity and abuse from my "used to be in-laws" since I met them in 1990. And that phone call was the final straw!!! I unfriended them all from my facebook, and will never again answer any of their calls! My phone is old, so I don't have a block option on it. That is them gone for good, out of my life!!!
The following day I felt like talking to someone, so I sent text messages to 2 of my sisters. The one sent a short reply, indicating that she is very busy. The other sister sent me a reply the next day, saying that she is too busy to even pee! Yet she posts on facebook many times each day! Okay, so they are cut out of my life also!!
Then who's left? My 2 wonderful older children, my 2 granddaughters, and 2 friends from many years ago. And then I received all the comments on my pictures from my very precious FMO sisters!!! Wow!!! Yes, these comments showed me that I DO HAVE beautiful friends who truly care and understand!! Thank you all so very, very much!!!
I should have started cutting negative, hurting people out of my life long ago, but I was not ready then. I am ready now! This feels like the beginning of a whole new chapter in my life. A chapter with all the beautiful and loving people in it. Also my precious loved ones in heaven!! And with my very own, special Colleen with me all the days of my life!!
The following day I felt like talking to someone, so I sent text messages to 2 of my sisters. The one sent a short reply, indicating that she is very busy. The other sister sent me a reply the next day, saying that she is too busy to even pee! Yet she posts on facebook many times each day! Okay, so they are cut out of my life also!!
Then who's left? My 2 wonderful older children, my 2 granddaughters, and 2 friends from many years ago. And then I received all the comments on my pictures from my very precious FMO sisters!!! Wow!!! Yes, these comments showed me that I DO HAVE beautiful friends who truly care and understand!! Thank you all so very, very much!!!
I should have started cutting negative, hurting people out of my life long ago, but I was not ready then. I am ready now! This feels like the beginning of a whole new chapter in my life. A chapter with all the beautiful and loving people in it. Also my precious loved ones in heaven!! And with my very own, special Colleen with me all the days of my life!!
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Wow! You are a very strong lady! To not only see that certain people needed to be let go of but DOING IT! Good for you!
As this journey goes on, I too am discovering who are truly \"there\" and who isn\'t, or might be simply when it\'s convenient for them.
Well done, Andelene, well done!
Really tight hugs, Merrilee
I\'m sorry these people have let you down, but good for you for not putting up with it any longer. Since losing our son, we are finding out the hard way who really cares about us and who just liked to say they did. As if living without our kids isn\'t hard enough. Love and hugs, Paula
My brother told me recently that he has decided he has to start accepting that people who are not in his corner only drain him and impede him from his happiness. I\'m glad you\'re standing up for yourself. It will make you sad at times... but I don\'t think it will make you any sadder than all the times people you\'ve tried to love and be loved by have failed you have made you sad. Hugs Elissa
Kudos to you.... you do not abusive people in your life, nor so called sisters that have no time,,, sisters here always have time,,, because we care... love ya!
Amazing how they react in light of our loss. Yet everyone has their own way of looking at things. I marvel at how they can come to the thoughts that they do. I must have missed that lesson in class for sure. Sending you some peace today. Hugs, Kathy
This IS the best and most important gift that we can give ourselves. You are choosing for now what you need and desire. It may not always look this way, yet what matters is that you are putting yourself at the top of your list and inviting in only what feels the most healing and nurturing for you today, in this moment and that is the only moment that any of us have so way to GO my friend.
This takes courage, yet I believe that the more we practice and flex this muscle the more clarity and strength we will have around what feels good and what makes us feel like junk. No more junk!
I can feel a lightness in this journal and don\'t waiver when the small self starts to kick and scream and question your decisions. Move into your heart as YOU are and all your answers are right there.
I am smiling reading this journal and thank you for posting it as it takes ongoing courage to choose again and again what is healthy and nurturing for one\'s soul. This is just what YOU are doing!
Loving care,
XO Joanie
Every time I read one of your journals or hugs, I smile. I smile because you choose to be such a blessing to others and if they are not to you, then it is time to do what makes you feel right. I smile because I read you have a new job and I wonder at how God provides so well for all of his children at once. I also smile because you are my friend, and it is always nice to know that you are happy. We have a supportive group here and it is such a blessing to be part of it, despite the terrible dues.
Sending lots of love your way,
Leda
You are an inspiration to me. There are times out of my own loneliness that I will text, call or email someone who I know is not good for me just to talk to someone.....You have inspired me and I will remember YOU the next time I find myself feeling the need to do this.
Doing what is best for us, I find difficult but uplifting to our souls when we are able to do it. Yay for you!!! ((((hugs))) Vicki
It is tough letting go of negative people but it is worth it. I am glad you have the love and support of your children and true friends. And of course we are sisters of the heart.
Love and tight hugs, M