Time keeps on slippin, slippin, slippin, into the future.......
Ok second session mc last night. Went well I think, so far I'm doing most of the talking though so H is getting off easy, but counselor assured him we will start his digging soon :)
So I have to let you all know,, this timeline I've been obsessing about; it's all me. H has assured me over and over that there is no time limit, reitterated last night at mc. The time pressure is me projecting. Yes H has an impatient personality, but yes he has made great personal growth in this area over the last couple years, and since dday he has been the epitome of patience. I just wasnt seeing it,, I was still seeing old H,, and reacting as the old me. H is doing everything right so far. Instead of focusing on what if, I need to be grounded in the here n now. MC went over some more relaxation techniques last night, was disappointed my lovely ancient doc wouldnt give me antidepressants, but I have appt. with new doc on Jan 4, so hoping that goes well.
MC said he was very impressed with us the first time we were there, and even more impressed after the second visit. Said I am doing everything right at this point, and learning as I go. That makes me feel really good, especially since one of my irrational fears before starting mc was that counselor would take one look at us and say wth were you thinking, how did you manage this long, this is worst match I've ever seen, best answer for you two is divorce immediately :) lolol I am sooooo good at borrowing trouble/stress..
Anyway, I feel confident today :)
So I have to let you all know,, this timeline I've been obsessing about; it's all me. H has assured me over and over that there is no time limit, reitterated last night at mc. The time pressure is me projecting. Yes H has an impatient personality, but yes he has made great personal growth in this area over the last couple years, and since dday he has been the epitome of patience. I just wasnt seeing it,, I was still seeing old H,, and reacting as the old me. H is doing everything right so far. Instead of focusing on what if, I need to be grounded in the here n now. MC went over some more relaxation techniques last night, was disappointed my lovely ancient doc wouldnt give me antidepressants, but I have appt. with new doc on Jan 4, so hoping that goes well.
MC said he was very impressed with us the first time we were there, and even more impressed after the second visit. Said I am doing everything right at this point, and learning as I go. That makes me feel really good, especially since one of my irrational fears before starting mc was that counselor would take one look at us and say wth were you thinking, how did you manage this long, this is worst match I've ever seen, best answer for you two is divorce immediately :) lolol I am sooooo good at borrowing trouble/stress..
Anyway, I feel confident today :)
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I am happy that MC went well...if you have a good MC ( as it sounds like you do) they would never say to end things...they are there for you to refocus and help you heal and work things thru. Just know that you need to be patience and that the more time goes by the better you will feel. Sending you lots of support! (((hugs))))
Awesomeness! You\'re doing really well, I gotta say. You and h are doing everything right. I do most of the talking, too during our sessions. That\'s the advantage of being female. We\'re wired that way. :) Looking forward to hearing about more progress! Heaven knows, any good news here on this forum is welcome!
:) that would be a smile...you do rock! L~
Glad u are gaining perspective.
Yes, antidepressants aren\'t good for everyone. They can make certain people bi-polar if they have a tendency toward anxiousness. Perhaps your doc recognized this.