Time for More Support

I've been very upset with the lack of support I've gotten for the abuse I got with a guy I dated two years ago.  "Its in the past", "leave it alone", etc. - I would leave it alone if I got some validation for this and some sympathy.  What this guy did has exacerbated my social anxiety and left me in fear of doing anything with having two children to raise on my own.  If something happens to me, my children are orphaned.  Its a myth that widows can go out and not let their circumstances affect them.  It may sound nice, but its not practical, and it would be nice to have a set of activities that are considered "appropriate" for widows - especially safe dating. 
 
I have not found any guidance in rebuilding my life in a safe and positive way.  The therapist I've been seeing is harsh and doesn't really believe that certain people need certain limits in order for them to feel safe.  I dated and it became a scary situation.  I feel lonely, an outcast, unsupported, misunderstood, disrespected.  My oldest son feels terrible for what happened to me and feels partially responsible which I have to admit, I feel that the kids are for their lack of respect for our situation as a family and lack of respect for contributing to the family appropriately for their age levels. 
 
I need more support for my life, and I'm having a difficult time finding it.  I hope maybe writing here will help.

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JOYHOLY
JOYHOLY

HELLO SO SORRY THAT YOU FEEL AS YOU DO AND NOT GETTING THE HELP, COMPASSION AND I SEE THAT YOU DON\'T MENTION FRIENDS,FAMILY, I SEE THA TYOU WORRY ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN, AS ANY MUM WOULD, TRY TO BE LESS ANXIOUS, AND JUST TAKE EACH DAY AS IT COMES, ENJOY YOUR TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN, AFTER ALL WE DON\'T KNOW WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN IN THE FUTURE..STAY HERE AND MAKE FRIENDS, IT HELPS , AND BELIEVE ME MANY HAVE BEEN HELPED, AND SADLY HAVE LEFT FOR BETTER LIVES..HOPE THINGS ARE BETTER, LOVE JOY\'\'\'\'\'\'\'\'\'\'\'