Thought this through.......

Made a plan for T.  So far so good.  Knowing that his ADD plays into his immaturity - I realize that he needed a specific plan - all spelled out for him.  I believe it helped him because I made a day to day list for him and said that these daily chores will be enough for him to get a pack of cigarettes.  For more money - big jobs - such as cleaning out the garage, moving mulch - etc.  I am glad my hubby put his foot down last night and said no about his request for smokes - because he didn't earn it.  
I think this gave him incentive to put at least pick up another application.  He asked us to drive him up to a pizza shop to pick up one.  I gladly did that.  
Baby steps........