Things to change...

I am sitting here thinking of the things that my husband has pointed out in the past and if they are things I need to change...

Well he said my stomach was an issue for him years ago and that has had good years and bad years. I am looking at starting some at home workouts for now until I am ready to go to the gym. I have about 10-15 lbs to lose until I am happy with me. I have lost 30 lbs since having a baby 1 month ago so am hoping the last bit is easy too. 

Another thing he said was that he did not like when I wore tshirts too much so I will be figuring out a better, cuter way to dress that is more me and less comfy all the time. Being a mom I have become a bit lost when it comes to fashion so may have to take some college kids shopping or ask a few non mom friends what the kids are wearing now days... lol

He wanted me to have my own friends but then would not allow me to have time to see them. So I am making time to at least talk to friends I have not had a chance to in many years... It has been great fun reconnecting to al the people I thought I had lost.

He wanted me to go back to school but did not want to help with our son for me to do that so I am signed up for tax prep online and doing that while my son naps..

He wanted me to work fulltime right away after having our son even though I lost money working... I am finding ways to make money from home not really what he wanted as I was doing this while he was home too but it was never considered work from him. I earned anywhere from an extra $100- $4000 a month with side jobs that allowed me to still care for our son.

He asked me to wear makeup more than I did for special occassions... So I found a friend to teach me how to do both my hair and makeup as that is really not too important to me but seemed important to him.

I will be wrting again this is for myself as it helps me stay in a better mood once I get things written down at the end of the day.

He wanted to have more fun so I am planning a trip for our son and me where I am asking him to join to see that I am still fun. I am just get overwhelmed by life easily lately but have made a few changes that should help with that.

I am now cleaning and decluttering every thing that I own room by room and did about 1/2 the basement today. That felt great! Now to keep going a little each day.

I am working in the mornings while my son is at school... I am renovating a house down the street from me and will be planting a garden soon too. Now to decide what to plant as I have a big garden area that I will be getting ready this week.

For myself I am going to start cooking again I have been in a slump since he left in february well before that if he was not going to be home I would just not cook but I am getting to the point where I need to start cooking again as my freezer is now getting empty after I have eaten most of my freezer meals that I made before. I will able getting healthier and then I will have more energy.

That is a start...