Things change and there can be peace
I will preface this by saying I am not asking for support or a beating either one. I just need to lay this out and get it out of my head.
My divorce became final in November and that felt good. My ex and I are still in touch and today he called me said crap, the car broke down and I need to do some shopping. I was soundly asleep napping and missed the call. I returned the call when I felt like it and took him to our best mechanic ever to get his car and bad news and then we went to our favorite diner and talked and it was ok. The shopping never happened and that is his problem.
He and I have little support that we can rely on but each other and a few coworkers. Like right now if my house caught fire and I needed help he would be the one getting the call. And I would do the same for him.
We are at peace and enjoy each others company and I am going to roll with this for now. I cannot imagine us ever together again but I also cannot imagine life without him in it.
So there we go.
My divorce became final in November and that felt good. My ex and I are still in touch and today he called me said crap, the car broke down and I need to do some shopping. I was soundly asleep napping and missed the call. I returned the call when I felt like it and took him to our best mechanic ever to get his car and bad news and then we went to our favorite diner and talked and it was ok. The shopping never happened and that is his problem.
He and I have little support that we can rely on but each other and a few coworkers. Like right now if my house caught fire and I needed help he would be the one getting the call. And I would do the same for him.
We are at peace and enjoy each others company and I am going to roll with this for now. I cannot imagine us ever together again but I also cannot imagine life without him in it.
So there we go.
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This sounds nice Amy. Once u are healed and can have contact without pain it sounds like u can possibly have a friendship of sorts. It\'s all how you handle it right? If it hurts still then probably best to shut down but if you can handle it then that\'s great. My ex and I text about our daughter and I can handle that ok. Not ready to sit down with her though and don\'t really ever see a need to, except maybe out daughters graduation in June...not sure about that one either lol
Thanks Coop for your advice and support. It was a tough decision for me to make but I am keeping boundaries and limits and it mostly feels ok. If that changes I will put an end to it. Nobody to blame but myself if I hurt over this again. I have known him since we were 12 years old and our families are still close....so one chapter of life is over and that is ok.
it is a tough decision Amy. I truly hope you can be friends and you have set some boundaries so as long as you\'re ok, you being friends are ok. I wanted to be friends with my ex and thought I could but his lack of response and interest in me quickly changed my thinking. I deserve better, even in friendship. I understand your bond with him and I hope this goes well for you. And you know you have us, even though we far away from each other, you have us to vent and talk to and we will be here for you ALWAYS. Hugs
Thank you sweetie! That means a lot to me....and I do know I always have you for support when I need it.
Good for you, Honey; you both deserve some peace. xo:)
Thank you Sunshine - don\'t we all! xo to you too