things can get better,
Well i guess im living proof that a life can be completly turned around and good things can happen. You just got to keep pushing and fighting for you want and what you need. It doesnt matter how stuck or lost you feel. All you got to do is know whats best for you. Ive came down a hard and rough road. Been stuck for years cause a person can tell you things so much and youll get it stuck in your head thats its true and start believing it. I alway thought no one wanted me or would ever be with me all cause my ex got that stuck in head. Over half the relationship i had to stay strung out just to be able to make it everyday but it was hiding what was going on. Cheting lieing secrets. I guess thats why i have trust issues, Went so long being blind to everything, feelings, actions , the want to be better. It took legal matters to get me clean and it opened my eyes.
Well this girl that has steppped in my life now has shown me that everything i was told in the past was a lie. I guess i never really been in love until now. Something i never would have thought would have happened. I been thanking god everyday for puting this person in my life. Shes shown me that i am wanted, that i am a good person , shes showed me emotions that are totally new to me. Just the feeling i get when i around her. She has all these feelings for me to. I had doubts at first but she proved me wrong.
I got interviews lined up, Just everything is falling into place. This girl really means alot to me and ima do what it takes to keep her happy and myself happy as well. Ive made a few friends that i allowed a spot in my life and they are great people and are they for support anytime i need them. My eyes has opened fully again and im so glad that i had to go thru what i have and done all the things ive done in my past cause if didnt happen then i wouldnt be here, clean, bettering my self , and i wouldnt have her.
Im just so greatful and thankful. I love feeling all these feelings . I love the things people are saying about me now, well the ones that know me and what ive been thru. Its just so great.
everyone on here thats been following my post and keeping a eye on me knows how much change has happened since ive been on this site. This site really helps alot if you use it for help and not attention.
Everyone can end up like me if you choose to, just never let anyone break you or control you. Have a mind set of what is best for you and what you want and fight fight fight. It can happen for anyone you just got find your self motivator. Thanks for reading and hears big HUGS in advanced
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Careful.
I appreciate that you love her, but you HAVE to do it for you. If she decides for herself that the relationship is not right for her...life is STILL just as good and just as worth living.
I adore my children, and most of the time my kids love, like or tolerate me. But there are times when they don't. When they fall apart, I can't fall apart too. Even if, on that day, I feel like a complete failure as a parent. And there ARE days like that.
I have to say this VERY carefully. I have no reason to doubt your girl friend. What I am about to say has NOTHING to do with her personally.
One's life is so delicate, it is easy for us to drop and break it. Fortunately, when that happens, it usually heals. Point is ... one life is enough for each of us.
When we hand our life (happiness) over to someone else, in a way, they now have TWO lives to 'maintain'. At some point, they may 'drop' and break either their own or someone else's.
All I am saying is love this girl/woman all you want. Enjoy every bit of it. Just know that you are responsible for your OWN happiness and she hers. Then, there is the happiness that comes from the joining of the two. Yours, hers, and 'ours". If, for any reason, something happens, you need enough love for YOURSELF to remain 'yourself'.
Both Patti and WanderingVet are absolutely correct in what they say. While I'm very, very glad that you're happy, I'm also concerned about the fact that you're turning to others to make you feel worthy. Comments like "She's shown me that I am wanted, that I am a good person," and "I love the things people are saying about me now," indicate to me that you are relying on others to define whether you are acceptable or not. What will happen if suddenly this girl and your friends leave you and/or tell you they believe you're a loser? It's important that you work on feeling really and truly good about yourself at your core. You are amazing for what you have overcome, regardless of how anyone feels about you. And, it's important that you be able to stay strong and keep fighting, even if everyone in the world abandons you. Please make certain that you don't get so wrapped up in this girl's life that you lose sight of your own.
Congrats on the interviews! I'm always rooting for you, Scotty. Please keep us posted. Hugs.
Scotty, you are no longer the old Scotty. You have become a new man, and so can have a totally different life. You began with friendships, and now have a relationship. You had no picture of healthy love, but as you learned to love others on the recovery journey, you began also learning about healthy relationships. Relationship math, 2 halves don't make a whole; two wholes make a relationship. Hugs as you continue this journey.
*SimpsonsOK thanks so much all ways support and words of wisdom. HUGS
Congratulations. I've seen you on here before and know you have struggled a lot. I'm glad that you have some light coming into your life. Bask in it!!!
Hey Scotty- CONGRATULATIONS. Happiness is yours as it is well deserved. I loved the way Simpsonsok worded it.
I love 2 halves dont make a whole, 2 wholes make a relationship.Genius.
There was never anything really wrong with you as far as my perception. You just had to dig dig dig and uncover and unearth
the beautiful gems of truth about yourself.Now you can share it with the World as you have been and it is soooooooooooooooo
Happy to hear!.
Hark the Heralds Angels Do Sing Glory is Due to this Newborn newfound King.(You) The Universe does Bow down to serve You.
May you bask in this newfound happiness but hold dearest to your heart the Truth Gems found within yourself,
Hugs ,