There is a purpose to our pain.

I was listening to a Pastor today speaking about a " Purpose to our Pain" at first I was like " right what kind of purpose could there be for pain" it just sounded wierd to me. I mean none of us seek out to go through pain or try to realize there is a purpose to it right? I mean who wants to try to find meaning in PAIN it sucks. Then as he went on for a little while my thoughts started to shift maybe if I try to see the purpose of why this is happening to me and start focusing on " What's next for me  instead of What was" I may be able to see the answers more clearly. So today that's what I did I made a list of everything that is possible for me now that wasn't when my H was here.
I kept saying there is a Purpose to my Pain and I am not going through this for nothing. Even though I am still at the beginning of my jouney it's only been 3 months since my world came crashing down he ran out on me, I am rebuilding brick by brick. I have to sit back and give myself credit for how far I have already come. I have done alot in 3 months and did it with " Style" as I like to call it. No following him around, no showing up at his place, no breaking or smashing his things, no obsessive phone calls, I mean nothing. Hell I even left him boxes on the porch of our old house when I moved with stuff in it that I thought he would like to have. There is a Purpose to my Pain by starting to let go of the past should of, could of, would of crap I can start to see a light at the end of the darkness.
I know that light will replace dark, I know that good people always will triumph over evil people, and I know that I am going to be ok. One day at a time going back to basics. My DS Fairy Godmother ( you know who you are) I have my first NC on my calander for today thanks for always being there. My fight has just begun I have a huge wall to climb but I will get there one brick at a time. Remember my DS family " There is a Purpose to our Pain, We didn't go through all this for NOTHING.....