The start

Well never really have done and online journal but it sounds like a good idea.  I have so many thoughts going thru my head right now...laying in bed.  Trying to sleep...trying to convince myself I'm getting over her...and yet I still have butterflies in my stomach as we speak.  I still miss her alot..her voice...smile...etc.  That being said, I have a big trip to Hawaii planned for this week.  I have to live....I have to.  I have to live as if she is never comming back....I have to.  I will get thru this.  I survived a huge breakup with Sarah, losing my job, the Marines...I can get thru this.  It will take time...and pain....but I will be a better person for this.  Besides...what choice do I have haha.  I'm gonna keep smiling...I'm HARDCORPS!!

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Hi Ranger, It sounds like you know what is best to do. I know that our hearts tell us one thing and our heads tell us something else. I think with you keeping busy and planning that she is not coming back is the best thing. I keep telling myself the same thing. This will make us all better and I do believe that better things are ahead for us. We have to go through these tough times to get to where we need to be. Hang in there, you are doing great.
Mssbella
Mssbella

Journal writing does help!! I thought it was kind of corny, like something I did as a pre-teen, but it works! Remember EVERYTHING happens for a reason. You will grow from these experiences. Hang in there and happy vaca!!....Im a little jealous.lol, Hawaii sounds fab for the winter!
deleted_user
deleted_user

hi ranger all i have to say is [ never give up ]
TibetianTiger
TibetianTiger

Try to remember that we are all propelled by our internal needs. From that, we probably can find most anyone to meet those needs, if we look in the right places and the right times. It\'s very easy to make emotional assignments to certain individuals...and some of that is perfectly normal and fine. But, sometimes, we can also look toward people for our emotional support...when they may or may not be capable of meeting our needs.

If you look at someone and determine their capacity to meet your needs...and it appears as though they can...then half the battle is won, so to speak.

But, don\'t let your needs get you hurt. It\'s not realistic to expect not to get hurt in relationships...it happens all the time...but you can improve your chances.

Also, don\'t be afraid to ask people you like to take things to the next level if they pass the test above.