The seperation
Yesterday my wife decided that enough was enough. She has left me with my daughter and is "trying" to give herself time to figure things out. Seperation is tough but i gave my wife 100 of me and she used my situation to her advantage. She thought i would not seek counseling, she thought i was weak. Since becoming Aware i have been on the right path, my wifes true colors have emerged as well. 14 years and i actually didnt know how hateful and hurtful she was on the inside. I am hurting but my feet keep moving. Im wondering if she will use my situation to get custody... all i can do is pray and try to keep positive. Still its tough.
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12 Years with my Husband telling me One thing while inside he was a Malicious Lying snake. I Feel your Pain. Then he dragged me through a Year Custody Battle trying to smear me with Crazy or or other Names. Nothing stuck. Stay Strong. You will overcome. Here if you need an Ear.
Thank you, im speaking with a transgender specialist now, ironically her specialist. I dont fear what she could do to make my life miserable anymore. Everyday it seems i remember more and more repressed memories. I ruined much of my life trying to accommodate her.
Everytime i tried to tell her how i felt she clammed up, got angry, got anxious, got something negative. She tried to turn my own mother against me. Nothing she has slandered me with has stuck. You are so right on that. I held on so long because of my fear of losing my daughter to her I now know its entirely unfounded. My daughter loves me so much. She accepts me for who i am entirely. I am asking for a divorce today, im telling her/our counselor (she finally agreed to share a counselor) that im done. I will not be treated this way no longer. I wish her the best of luck in her new life. I will support her in regards to my child 100%. But i cannot help her anymore. My money is tapped out completely trying to help her and i dont care at least i can say i tried.. I tried/did everything positive to make thinks work but she doesnt want things to work. She sabatoged the relationship for too long. I dont need money to be happy in life. As long as my daughter has food in the fridge, clothes to wear, toys/crafts to play with and anything else to grow the right way her basic needs are all she needs. Everything else is just iccing on the cake. I cannot fear the unknown anymore. I stand tall, i do not fear her anymore!