The pullout
And no this isnt about not getting pregnant. This is about making my heart mind my pull out of this relationship completely. It was on its way until last year when she came back. Then i allowed myself to drop it back into the same place i was extracting it from. I met a woman that has made me think that love somewhere else is possible again. Not to say I am out doing anything but just having a little thoughts is enough to start pulling out of this once again. I am really going to try and have me out of here before she packs up and leaves. I am just so ready to find me again. The one person who would stop and smell the flowers along the daily path. Walking in the woods by myself. finding the beauty in solitude. Of course My girl will be right along there with me but I think she will be ok. some crying at night when her momma leaves but it will be better if I am not in such a funk like I was last year that maybe I can help my daughter cope.
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Good on you, Lost! You and your girl will be in a much better place before the year is out. Count on it.
Lost....sounds like you are getting there. It is one step at a time, even if backwards, then move forward again. You are starting to realize YOU are important. WIth or without your wife, you need to be important. You can have your wife with you but if you aren\'t happy or she isn\'t satisfying your emotional needs, why be in the relationship? Especially when you know she isn\'t giving 100%. Yes, when you can meet someone and it sparks that interest in you, even knowing nothing will come of it, you do realize there is a lot of love in you to give someone else.
Lost....sounds like you are getting there. It is one step at a time, even if backwards, then move forward again. You are starting to realize YOU are important. WIth or without your wife, you need to be important. You can have your wife with you but if you aren\'t happy or she isn\'t satisfying your emotional needs, why be in the relationship? Especially when you know she isn\'t giving 100%. Yes, when you can meet someone and it sparks that interest in you, even knowing nothing will come of it, you do realize there is a lot of love in you to give someone else.
hold fast to this determination, even when she says things that make you want to back down
you know now what you have to do for health, and I know you will do it