The ongoing abuse...

When I left him he was working up north as a welder and making around $ 200,000 a year.My daughter was born in  Feb 1988 ( Alyssa is not his, I was pregnant with her when we met). Our son was born in Nov 1989.I dealt with all forms of abuse. Financial, my cheques from working at the horse stables down the road went to him (he took my bank card), the vehicle I was allowed was an uninsured truck that wasn't road worthy, I wasn't allowed a licence(mine expired, not allowed to re-new). At times he went as far as to deny me tampons ( I would get them though my daughter) I won't get into the sexual abuse except to say it existed..Verbal, geez, he didn't hold back anywhere else, why start here, he called me b*t*h and c**t  so often the kids said it from the car seat for him if I took too long in the store...He had been extremely physicaly abusive in the past, convicted a few times of assault and served jail time. I had suffered many an injury at his hands...Shattering my childs rocking horse on my head, then beating me with the peices...fracturing my eye socket causing a punctured sinus...one time the RCMP said they could not believe he did it with his hands and not a weapon (when he was convicted of aggrivated assault with intent to mame).A while ago it became extreme, he started work up north and started doing meth. All his money went to women and meth. The children and I were neglected, the few days a month he was home he was very cruel to us all. One night he brought a homeless hitchhicker home and he was to spend the night. When I tried to talk to him and explain this was dangerous for our daughter, we knew nothing of this man, he smacked me and said I was being a b*t*h...Then he hit both children, punched my son so hard in the stomach for spilling a pop he ended upcurled on the floor, next day, my daughter asked at the supper table if she could use the upstairs shower in the morning before school and was knocked off her chair with a black eye... The children and I had a talk, they said they wanted to get away from him no matter what...  I consulted a lawyer and called RCMP. Because of our history and the fact he had done jail time (aggravated assault with intent to maim) the RCMP set up road blocks to serve him an EPO and stop him from making it to the acreage. I was hiding with the kids at the neighbors 2 doors down. Then they came to me, told me they had to use a taser, and we had to leave the area for safety. They accompanied me to the home with vans so we could get our rottie, horse, blue and gold macaw and belongings (the RCMP knew from records he had killed pets before for me to find). We ran to the city...I eventually fought to get exclusive possession of the home, during court he was ordered to disclose income, I was granted exclusive posession. Well since things didn't go the way he wanted, he fired his lawyer and refused to attend court or acknowledge the court order for support. I did not get any child or spousal support. My lawyer and I  placed a Les pendens on the home (matrimonial lien, not to be liquidated until financial settlement) to protect my interests.Part of my mistake was...I never told the children of the things they didn't see, they knew the physical abuse ( they were hit too near the end) and the financial abuse. But they did not know of the sexual abuse or the meth addiction he formed while working out of town, or the cheating. the other mistake was me thinking it would be ok for visitation.For about 2 years my daughter (not biologically his daughter, born in 1988) and my son (born in 1989) regularly spent time with him. I  should have put a stop to it all things considered but I didn't.  We tried to serve for support at his parents (only known place), he was there and became violent with the server...I was told I would need to arrange protection for further service... During all this the neighbors that helped me leave turned on me, they harassed me really bad, stole my dog numerous times, twice giving him away, I never gave up looking and always got him back...once came into my home to take him. (I think my husband wanted him gone, he is a protective 175lb rottie). They even tried to run me off the highway when my daughter was in the car. To my surprise...one day I come home from work to find my daughter packing..."Dad got a condo, since he is only in town a couple days a month, I can go live in the city there, it will be like my own house and he will pay for everything!" I burst into tears, she already had her things in her boyfriends truck and was out the door. "don't worry I will visit all the time!" within a couple days my son moved too...I made excuses, they are teens stuck in the country, they will see the light...blah blah blah... My daughter became aware of his drug problem (he came to her grad late, wacked out on meth, with some girl in a denim miniskirt who was also wasted and not old enough to have graduated herself! My daughter balled her eyes out) She told me how he would bring strange women home and lock himself in his room all weekend doing drugs. She said she was moving in with her boyfriend.They made excuses, 'dad says we are all he has, he has threatened to kill himself, dad needs us,'I saw less and less of them. It has torn me apart.He bought my daughter a brand new car (Lancer), a street bike, bought my son a street bike. Funny cause when he was with us they could not even get clothes.I tried to contact them and most of my messages were ignored. Then I was served papers saying he wanted to list the house for sale. I went to court, demanding the support he owed me (2 1/2 years) saying I wanted the house. The judge said if I wanted the house we would subtract the amount he owed and work from there. So his lawyer was to disclose income, we were to get an appraisal, ( I was to be sent a copy). Disclosure didn't come, I never recieved a copy of the appraisal, the judge was mad. His lawyer insisted I couldn't afford to buy the home and it should be listed, the judge said no, there was large equity, disclose income. I retained a lawyer. Still no income disclosure. Then I came home to a 'for sale' sign on my lawn, I freaked out, my lawyer said we would have to get financing for the full amount and work the other things out after. I worked out financing, then was told someone else was offering more (without even seeing the place). I said I refused the offer, I was told they would push it through court. 2 weeks posession date.  I was told during this they wanted (court ordered) an inspection for the accepted offerturned out to be a viewing. Was told there was a court order for an open house ( agent went to court saying it was the only way to sell a house) I left my video surveilance going during this open house...When I tried to watch it, it made me cry and have panic like attacks from what I saw...The agent called me a f**king skank to people coming to view the home, told them I was a disgruntled tenant, told them my husband was sole owner and was having trouble getting me out, said he was the only one who took care of the home and I was intentionally wreaking things, (we bought it as a reposession  and had not finished fixing it, I was the one doing all of it, I myself gutted the kitchen and installed a new Oak kitchen), Him saying all this when I was starting a home cleaning/renovation business in the community and trying to enter the real estate profession really tarnished me... He outwardly lied to people about the size of the property, condition ( septic not working), he talks to his assistant saying they will write up an offer with another brokerage to get me out in 2 weeks so they can buy it and fix it (illegal, I am an agent and know the rules). Also wasn't that what they were trying to do? I tried to tell my lawyer all this...'Get the home in your name first'It took me 8 months from the time the sign went up (mid-July) until the home was in my name(late march)...My husband was paid out (130,000) before x-mas (a stipulation for them to accept my offer, I had to get interm financing to pull it off) and it wasn't till the end of March title transferred to me! In January my lawyer went to court to have caveats removed because it was to transfer with clear title. It was very very stressful...The last month I was missing work as I was becoming physically ill. A month after getting the home in my name, I lost my ability to speak proper. It was like my tongue was swollen and would not move as I wanted, I sounded drunk. This lasted a couple days and I called the health line to talk to a nurse. She said get to the hosp, may be MS, the hosp thought TIA (mini-stroke)... took a week to get the MRI and results... Multiple brain aneurysms, no work, stay resting and avoid stress, urgent neurosurgeon consultation, then brain surgery was booked, but I would need at least 2 surgeries...(aneurysm=basically artery blowing a bubble that can burst).  I told my children, when my husband asked them what was wrong, he responded by saying he should of just killed me and had it over with...My claim for disabilty with the Co. I bought mortgage ins through was denied, I faced forclosure. My lawyer, after hearing of my aneurysms, said since I cannot pay my balance she can do nothing further (like she did much but bend me over) {sorry-it's true} The children were there for my first surgery...Dec. 16 2008, There were complications, I came out unresponsive, the doc went back in and fixed things. I have only seen the children a couple times since. I have been trying to not think of how this bothers me, because when I get upset or stressed I can feel the pulse in my head and I am scared for my life. After my surgery my boyfriend and savior Evan, learnt of my past and what had recently happened. He became very upset and wanted justice for me.  I had to list the home for sale at a loss...  April after my surgery, my boyfriend told me I should go though my surveilance tapes to see what was on them ( as I had just been putting them in boxes and not watching them all)I found a tape with the real estate agent before the sign went on the lawn. A strange truck comes into my driveway and sits there after I left for work, it sits there for about 15 minutes, then the real estate agent drives in. They walk up to the house. My rottie is tied on the deck. The real estate agent says he brought the 2x4 in his hand for the dog and he also has bear spray. He says he doesn't have permission to be there, and says they can try to get in through the garage. Then they are into the house for about 45 minutes. They come out and talk about the home then leave. My dog guards the front door the whole time though he can reach them... Turns out I was screwed over worse than I thought... Evan insisted we get everything from my lawyer-not until paid in full-(FYI-she will not give me a statement for anything past the day before my husband was paid out-though the firm was in court on my behalf after that...hmmm?). So we go to the courthouse to get copies of everything. Hundreds of dollars later, after finding 4, YES FOUR, separate files for one divorce, and one filed deemed 'confidential'. We had all the papers. My husbands lawyer made it look like there was no past, moved everything to different files, filed a motion to list the house for sale with an affidavit from my husband saying... 'One day I just packed up with the kids and left, after some time he agreed it was over and let me back to the home to sell it for us, there has never been an issue of child support and the kids are grown now. He said I did not contribute to the acqusition, improvement, and preservation of the home (outward lie as I can prove it was my insurance settlement that enabled us to get the home, and every damn thing from a well test to a contractor estimate or home depot reciept had my name on it as I arranged everything! I can prove his lack of contribution since we moved back also!) Copies of the apparent offers to purchase were also there, written on 3 different outdated real estate board forms (illegal) and with anonymus purchasers. All of the offers were fake, illegal, altered. (1 offer from 1 agency and their anonymus purchaser, then four increasingly higher offers from the caveat agents anonymus purchaser). Offers said 2 weeks vacant possession...Remember the open house tape and how the agent talked about his plan to get my home?They messed with my financing putting false caveats and liens on the home. The real estate agent who apparently worked for the 'and or nominee' (a round about way of hiding the purchaser) who made an offer on the home put on a caveat for her commission saying it was a confirmed sale, then voluntarily removed it, only to put it back after my husband was paid (though the home was still in his name)-this was the caveat my lawyer went to court for, and by the way used an affidavit from my husbands real estate agent (chosen by his law firm) that says I have dower rights and never approved their purchase so no commission was due(this affidavits attachments also prove there was perjury commited and proves forged documents). My husband put on a builders lien (filled out the same day his release of dower was, though he did not register his release of dower until months later) Keep in mind to register a caveat or lein you have to sign a paper in front of a commissioner that states quote "I believe that I have (or the caveator has) a good and valid claim on the land (mortgage or encumbrance), and say that this caveat is not being filed for the purpose of delaying or embarassing any peron interested in or proposing to deal with it"  I also found out from appraisers that they are required to contact the last listing agent if the home has been listed in the last few years and guess what!! The agent working for my husband interfered with the value in every appraisal, including the last one when I tried to refinance before forclosure, I had arranged a year worth of payments with the mortgage broker (she knew medical history etc) to get me through surgery, everything was a go, appraisal happens, then the broker says they want nothing to do with me, the house was on the MLS it wasn't mine from part of my divorce, they talked to the agent I'm a liar...click...that was a couple weeks before surgery.  I did lose my home. I walked away owing over $100,000...Evan and I moved to his parents home cause he wants me to be taken care of..We have been here a few months.  With all we have found in these papers and our investigating and the videos. I can prove conspiracy, perjury, summiting false documents, submitting forged documents, contempt...and more...His lawyer and the agent knew and took part...My lawyer handed me over...there is break and enter, tresspass, slander, and all the illegal real estate activities on the agent (and he is a household name in these parts-everyone has heard of him, he makes huge coin)I found out by searching the agent at the courthouse there has been a ongoing court case (4 years) where the agent is being sued because he lied about the property bounderies to a purchaser and both houses and the barn are encroachments on this farm and have to be torn down or moved. And guess who represents that purchaser in court, yuppers (you are getting good at this) my husbands law firm, the same one that my court documents say hired this agent for my husband...(Hmmmmm!!! Can you say conflict of interest?)  I could really use some advice and input on what has happened and what I should do...I keep getting overwhelmed with it and have to put it aside.I have gotten in touch with the agency that helps battered women in my area since they helped me leave in the first place, in hopes of getting those who were involved back then (RCMP, victim services etc to help out)I have composed a complaint to the real estate board in hopes of getting his licence revoked, and fines handed out. Considering his law firm is one of the top in the city and the agent is so well known I have to be careful who I talk to...I don't want any of them knowing I know what they did till the hammer hits!! My God...This has been so hard to rehash and type out. My head is throbing and I have shed so many tears... Thank- you so much if you have read all I have typed (sorry if it jumps around and the spelling). I need to talk to someone about this...I have joined the physical and emotional abuse support group, Evan thinks I need to talk and I think he is right... Can anyone give me input or advice?Please?