The in-laws

Yesterday DH and I went shopping with his mom, his sister, and her two kids. The kids got hungry after awhile so we went to eat but my MIL stayed at the store longer, then met us at the restaurant. When she got there, she pulls out these baby outfits and baby items she bought for a friend's baby shower. She showed my sil every piece one by one right in front of me. Couldn't this have waited until another time? My husband imediately turned to look at my reaction. I just looked away, he knows that I look away am bothered. I sear they have no clue. But I remember that his mother was the one that told him that I shouldn't be upset about losing my daughter because "It happens, she needs to get over it and move on." She also told me recently, "You look so good! You lost alot of weight, wow at least you got your body back." She probably meant well, but didn't realize it. Either way I can't stand her for it. I don't know how to deal with their insensitivity, they think I'm over it because DH tells them I'm doing good. I may be good on the outside, but inside I'm broken. Ahhh.. I can't stand them!

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deleted_user
deleted_user

I am so sorry to the hear that about your Mother In Laws in sensitivity!! I know I have an aunt that immediatly started to comment on my weight/stomach and she told me I should wear a GIRTLE!!! She even bought me two and I told her that I would not wear them that I would eventually lose the weight. But anyway maybe you need to try to confront her about how she is treating you. Sometimes people do not realize that they are being so blunt and can cause you such emotional pain. Obviously you know ot happens to other people but it doesn\'t make the pain of losing your daughter any easier. Well hopefully you and your spouse can maybe talk to her so she will not continue to be so insensitive! Good luck with that...
LiamLsMommy
LiamLsMommy

I hate to hear of their insensitivity. Maybe you and your husband could make a code for when shes really bothering you and the two of you could make an excuse and leave...
Hope today is better for you