The Holiday Mother's Day....When 1912

Did you know that there was not an official Mother's Day until 1912, and Father's Day was not created until after someone heard a message about Mother's Day.
Sometimes, I wonder, as I have watched my mom just hate Holiday's and always sad because they do not turn out like she wants it to or expects it to, I have thought why have these Holiday's
I know in our life time all of our lives, we have practiced Mother's Day.
My question is this:  I am sad everyday, but because Sunday is named a national holiday for Mother's in 1912, that makes us be even sader.
United States set the day to be the 2nd Sunday in May.  Other places celebrate it on a different days.  Then the International Day for Women just happens to be on my birthday March 8, who really celebrates that.
So isn't it really amazing that before the late 1800's and not until 1912, there was not an official Mother's Day.
I think there is so much emphasis put on Holiday's and we sit and wait to hear from our families and sometimes some do and sometimes some don't and that is what is sad.
Don't get me wrong, I would be upset if I did not hear from my kids on Mother's Day, and I will miss hearing from Ken this year, but if it had never been started, then it would just be another day in our lives.  I know we can't erase it from our minds even though we wish we could especially since we lost our child.
So because we are human, we will still be sadder on Sunday cause it is called Mother's Day.  But if we could remember, we are mother's everyday and everyday is what makes us special.
For all of us who have lost our child and this will be our first year, I hope for you and me some special blessing on Sunday.  For all of us who have lost a child no matter how long, I hope all of you and me too some special blessing this coming Sunday.
Just want all of you to remember, you are such good friends, and I would not come this far without DS and all your show of love and concern.  And hope that your day  is not too sorrowful Sunday, just remember your always a mother.
Love, Sandi
 

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Thanks for sharing the history of the holiday, Sandi! I know I\'ve read about it before, but can never remember the details. It\'s such a gamble--having children. My mother has lost 2 sons, my brothers, but I still have so many good memories of growing up in my family. I gracefully go along with the family plans to celebrate that day and really appreciate their efforts (especially if they cook AND do dishes) but we all know that the special memories of motherhood occur at various times throughout our lives with our children. You are right, though, when you point out it is easy to set ourselves up for disappointment with these holidays. So, I hope we can all embrace the good memories we have of motherhood, embrace our living children and siblings and our own mothers. On my first Mother\'s Day without Tim, I dug out some of the cards he had given me over the years and set them on the counter with the other cards, and it really did fill me with a sense of peace and fullfillment--his life was short, but he did love his Mom =)
Love and Hugs to everyone who will be struggling with this \"holiday.\"
Diane
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Thanks love sending you blessings and love
KimRW
KimRW

Thanks Sandi for sharing this...I hope you have a gentle day on Sunday as well. Hugs, Kim
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Interesting Sandi, I had no idea how mother\'s day got started either, thanks.
I hope you will also have a quiet and comfortable day,
Take care,
Joan
KandL
KandL

Thanks for sharing this info. It is so true. We miss our kids each & everyday, but on these days it is a bit harder at least in my mind. I wish you all the best tomorrow & everyday. May you have peace & love always in your life. Thanks for being here for me. I\'ll be thinking of you, Sandi. hugs, Linda
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wow, i had no idea,.. about the history of the holidays,. im wishing good things for you tomarrow, and always,..Happy Mother\'s Day ,.. Dave
Robin4
Robin4

Thank you for sharing the history of Mother\'s Day. I knew it wasn\'t an old holiday as most but didn\'t know everything that started the day. Motherhood is my greatest blessing and although I will be sad tomorrow, I will celebrate my child. He is why I am a mother and I will forever be grateful. Sending you prayers for a gentle day. Love to you. Robin
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Thanks for sharing this, I did hear about it on Hoda & Kathie Lee yesterday. Thinking of you tomorrow and hope that it will be gentle for you..Hugs, Connie
ihart
ihart

Hi Sandi,
I must agree with you. I really do not like the focus of the calender and society dictating how I perceive the day. Unfortunately, I hate to admit it, as hard as I fight it some days have an impact on me. Mothers day is filled with memories and knowledge there will not be new ones created and that does have an impact. I am a mom every day and my son is not here every day and I miss him every day and it is just plain ole hard every day...Hugs, Inga
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WOW! I never knew ABOUT IT until you wrote this .... when it started! Thanks for sharing the history of Mother\'s Day in the begin the year 1912.

*** Remember Kenny are with you in the spirit. Kenny\'s heart always be connected with your heart. It is part of you as the mother .
I know from my heart ken wants me to say HAPPY MOTHERS DAY along with his brothers.

Kenny love you very much. Some day you will see him.
Love you ,Luci
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Thanks. You know truly, I guess I\'m for anything that reminds me, no matter, how sad, that I had a son, I loved more than life, if only for a short time. Wishing all of us some type of peace, on Mothers Day.
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Thanks for sharing. Isn\'t live all about expectations.? Hugs Cathy