the guy I am talking to
This guy I am talking to were friends,but I think he has developed crush on me that is fine he is nice enough, and he is okay. I just don't think I trust him all to much. it is weird now he wants me to email his daughter and be like a friend to her. a ten year old can you sense all the red flags around that . I certainly do. and he keeps asking me. I put if off. I think if any one suggested I talk to their kid their daughter because she misses her mom is just beyond bizarre. I may be broke beyond repair and I may need a therapist like super bad because when he mentions love and commitment, and life time together I want to run as far away as possible the whole talking of love really makes my skin crawl. yes I am that bad off. I am trying to get a therapist but it is so expensive 65,00 dollars a session.. still looking though. Yesterday he called me my wife I almost deleted our whole conversation I mean seriously it has only been a month. I think he was peeved when I still refuse to e mail his ten year old daughter who does that? I never been in such a weird situation . I don't think I will be talking to him as much as I have just feel uncomfortable you know . Thank you for listening I so appreciate that. I think I needed to have a sounding board and this man I don't think can be trusted, it may be me or it may be him going overboard. Only time will tell . and some space right.
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Wait, he's calling you his wife after a month of talking? Have you met him in real life? It doesn't seem like you're ready for this relationship and if you want to just be friends, you need to tell him that. It's ok to be on your own for a bit here and work on you.
Do you have insurance to help with a therapist? I see one weekly and just have a copay (although it's been waved since we went to telehealth). If not, maybe look into state programs that offer low cost mental health options. It's totally been worth it for me.
no insurance yes only a month that is why I am like wait wife wth. lol yes it is strange I will try to look into that I seriously need it thank you for listening
weird....sounds like lovebombing, which is common and I think every guy I dated did that in the beginning...act like they're crazy about you, but then when you actually start to like them, then poof! lol. I bet if you acted the same, he'd get scared and disappear...lol. it's like a game to them. this one guy acted really interested, kept wanting to "take me out", and then one day I joked "so how'd my internet boyfriend today?" lol. you know, since he was already acting like we were a couple. he was like "so now I'm your boyfriend huh". lol. HE was the one that was acting like that and saying that stuff, then I just made a joke about it, and then he got scared off...lol, wtf? see, it's all just a game to them, and one they always have to win.
that's weird about his kid...yes, it sounds like he's looking for a new mom lol. the first guy I dated was like that, he even said he WASN'T looking for that, but yet he brought his young kid on our 1st date. um...how messed up is that??? then, bc I only wanted to date HIM, and not his kid, you know, see if we actually like each other? lol, then after a while he was like "my kid comes first" LOL!!! I'm sure she really came first, when you were dragging her around after midnight, so you could find someone to hopefully F***. no, you just got your fill and now you're suddenly a great dad, LOL. ugh, pathetic.
I'd run too if I were you. a lot of guys online are messed up, and most of them have kids and are just looking for a new mommy.
Yep I agree to weird so I haven't talked to him in awhile just say hi and by it helps that I work all the time and so does he. hopefully he will just get bored and lose interest; I know I have completely lost interest in him as a friend, and other wise. I agree I am not looking to date the kid just the guy I already have two kids of my own and they come first anyway. lol I agree some guys are weird like that. thank you for listening
yes, most of them are weird. good for you for keeping your distance. and no problem :)
thanks lol yes completely