Thanksgiving

This is Thanksgiving weekend in Canada.  We had friends over and had a nice visit and the turkey and pumpkin pie were delicious.
But - Lisa is in heaven for Thanksgiving and I miss her terribly.  We haven't celebrated together for a few years but we always had telephone discussions about menus and who would be joining them for dinner.  Rarely did they have a special meal without friends or neighbours.  Both Lisa and Harvey enjoyed entertaining - and cooking.  Unfortunately, they could not be in the kitchen together.  Harvey liked to experiment and Lisa liked the traditional festive meal.  Invariably, they ended up arguing.  So they took turns and Harvey finally learned not to add chestnuts to the stuffing.
I am babbling but I am missing her so much right now and the memories are flooding back. It is so hard to accept that my daughter is a memory.
I am going to Ottawa on Wednesday to spend time with my granddaughter.  I pray it goes better than last time!

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NoraMc
NoraMc

Chestnuts in the stuffing...oh my! I\'ll take the traditional...So glad the dinner was yummy and you had people around you to help get through. peace Nora
Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

It feels as if you enjoyed yourselves yet of course, felt that tugging on your heartstrings. I just don\'t know how it can ever be any other way? Hoping your granddaughter time is what you both need and always as I look around the table there is an empty chair and no one can fill it nor would I want them to. I understand my friend. Missing our Lisa and Douglas that\'s for sure. Hugs to you and oh, how I love that pumpkin pie! XO Joanie
JennsMom66
JennsMom66

Holidays are always a bad time, although I don\'t usually have the melt downs I did the first few.. the first Christmas after Jenn died was B>A>D, now I am just sad and can\'t wait for the day to be over.
Hope you have a good visit with your granddaughter.
MaryLou
KandL
KandL

Dear Marlene, Babble away! I\'m here to listen. Its good to get out those feelings in a safe place. Of course you miss your Lisa. Its been slightly over a year now since Eddie passed & it still has an unreal quality to it - how can he really be gone? As Joanie said. The empty feeling, how can it be any other way. We will always miss them on holidays & everyday. I\'m glad that you were able to have moments of enjoyment. I do hope your visit with your granddaughter goes well this time. You both need each other so much. Love & understanding, Linda
Missinglisa
Missinglisa

Thank you All for your kind words and thoughts. I appreciate it so much!!
I did enjoy the dinner and company. I guess the good times will always be tinged with sadness and remembering.
I am trying to see the bright side. I am sitting on my bed and looking out at a beautiful bright yellow tree which for some reason has not yet lost it\'s leaves. I love the fall colours.
Hugs and Peace,
Marlene -Lisa\'s Mum
deleted_user
deleted_user

Holidays unfortuntately will never be quite the same again, always an empty chair, and tinged with sad memories. I am canadian also although i live in Columbus Ohio now. We never really celebrated Thanksgiving but every holiday is sad for me now. Sandi
CorriesMom
CorriesMom

We\'re trying to figure out what to do about Thanksgiving and Christmas this year. Last year I was determined that everything would be \"normal\" ~ though, of course it was not. We did change our Thanksgiving tradition by visiting my sister in Florida who also lives near my mother who is in a skilled nursing facility and not able to get around much. But it was a very sad occasion ~ my sister lit candles representing my departed in-laws, our father (Corrie\'s grandfather) and Corrie, which was a really sweet gesture but triggered many tears and renewed heartbreak.

For Christmas I decorated the house like crazy, got a tree, and bought a few (way less than usual) stocking stuffers and gifts to put under the tree. We had moved to Las Vegas a couple of months before so in a way it was good that we were in a new location. But on Christmas day we ended up driving around aimlessly for a good chunk of the day and then unceremoniously unwrapping the gifts around 9:30 pm. So, this year ~ I just don\'t know. I\'m thinking perhaps no decorations or gifts whatsoever...

How wonderful that you still have the fall colours to enjoy. Trying to see the bright side ~ that\'s the best we can do ~ and I know that each year will be that much easier, though we will always feel the pain of the empty chair.

Sending love and holiday hugs your way ~ Debbie
biowoman
biowoman

It is always present...we enjoy...we love...we participate in life...but we miss...we miss our children...Happy Thanksgiving...ours will be here in a month...love and hugs...Karen