Thankful for finding this site
I just discovered this site last night. Just being able to share my experience and read other people's experience has given me so much relief. I am grateful for finding this site. I am hoping that my affiliation here will help with my panic attacks and depression. Such a comfort to know that other people have no family support either. I realized that my mother's denial is nothing unusual and that it is just another step in the incest abuse process. I don't feel so alone in my pain. Most importantly I don't feel crazy. My biggest problem has been self doubt. I can now say yes the incest was real. My mothers lifetime plight to hide it is real. I know I am ok. I am not crazy. I am a valuable person. My flaws and mistakes are not a glaring indicator that my Mother was right I am a crazy worthless liar who is about to be taken down.
When I was 8 I told my mother my father was molesting me. I knew she knew anyway but I spoke it. She told me if I ever said that again she would put me in a mental ward which is like a cage and that they would lock me up and throw away the key. That was a devastating blow to say the least. I then knew that no matter what my father did she would not protect me. Not only that she would help and assist him in destroying me.
My Mother's fake world looks so pretty from the outside. Beautiful home, perfectly decorated, nice car, good job. Family holiday events. Its such a façade.
My Mother almost kept me quiet until I pissed her off by telling her not to discuss my divorce with my children 10 years after the divorce. In addition, my mother was triggered because my daughter told her that she knew my father molested me. Once my mother's new husband died, of alcoholism to which she lies about. Funny the Bitch wanted nothing to do with my children until her new husband died. She badmouthed me and my ex to the kids. She started telling the kids how awful that your parents are divorced. How awful that you have a mom and a dad that only care about dating. She told my then 12 year old how do you stand living with your mom she takes money from you dad and spends it all on herself. My daughter knowing that was untrue was horrified. Nonetheless my mothers coupling with my ex-husband and 2 years of her manipulation she convinced my 12 year old to turn on me and say I was abusing her. She further went on to suggest to my husband that they should work on my daughter to get her to say that my fiancé at the time was molesting her.
My mother's evil has taken my sister from me too. She joined my mothers cause. My mother has been seeing my children on the weekend visits with their father. She is more determined than ever to get the now 12 year old twins against me. She has almost convinced my children totally that I am a liar to believe nothing I tell them.
There will be a price for my mother to pay I know this. She in her attempt NOT to deal with the incest has created an evil world of lies and manipulations. One day my Mothers world will cave in on her. It will be a sad day for her. I may be in pain but her pain will be like an avalanche of a thousand boulders crashing on her one after another with no where to run from the pain.
When I was 8 I told my mother my father was molesting me. I knew she knew anyway but I spoke it. She told me if I ever said that again she would put me in a mental ward which is like a cage and that they would lock me up and throw away the key. That was a devastating blow to say the least. I then knew that no matter what my father did she would not protect me. Not only that she would help and assist him in destroying me.
My Mother's fake world looks so pretty from the outside. Beautiful home, perfectly decorated, nice car, good job. Family holiday events. Its such a façade.
My Mother almost kept me quiet until I pissed her off by telling her not to discuss my divorce with my children 10 years after the divorce. In addition, my mother was triggered because my daughter told her that she knew my father molested me. Once my mother's new husband died, of alcoholism to which she lies about. Funny the Bitch wanted nothing to do with my children until her new husband died. She badmouthed me and my ex to the kids. She started telling the kids how awful that your parents are divorced. How awful that you have a mom and a dad that only care about dating. She told my then 12 year old how do you stand living with your mom she takes money from you dad and spends it all on herself. My daughter knowing that was untrue was horrified. Nonetheless my mothers coupling with my ex-husband and 2 years of her manipulation she convinced my 12 year old to turn on me and say I was abusing her. She further went on to suggest to my husband that they should work on my daughter to get her to say that my fiancé at the time was molesting her.
My mother's evil has taken my sister from me too. She joined my mothers cause. My mother has been seeing my children on the weekend visits with their father. She is more determined than ever to get the now 12 year old twins against me. She has almost convinced my children totally that I am a liar to believe nothing I tell them.
There will be a price for my mother to pay I know this. She in her attempt NOT to deal with the incest has created an evil world of lies and manipulations. One day my Mothers world will cave in on her. It will be a sad day for her. I may be in pain but her pain will be like an avalanche of a thousand boulders crashing on her one after another with no where to run from the pain.
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can you talk to the twins about your mother\'s response to you when you were a child and you told her about your dad? in a compassionate way without any anger at all, can you say \"I know you are hearing things about me when you go to see your dad and my mom is there. I wish you were not in the middle of this, but I can\'t control what they do. I can only ask you to keep an open mind. Come to me with any questions you have.\" and \"I would like you to keep in mind when my mother tells you something she wants you to believe about me that it is really important to her to convince people I lie. She needs that because it is too painful for her to accept that she did not protect me from my father. She knew he was hurting me when I was a child, and when I asked her for help, she told me if I ever spoke of it again she would send me to a mental hospital where I would never be allowed to leave again. She did not want to hurt me but she could not face what was happening. Now it is too much for her and she has to make me a bad guy. Always remember that people who are in denial about the truth are not good at telling the truth. You have to sift through all of their lies they tell themselves before you can get to a truth that will help you understand the real facts.\"
Do you just have the twins? or do you have other kids?
Your mother had an affair with your ex? WTF!