Talked To H Last Night

I had a very long talk with H last night about my friendships with  the 2 guys I am friendly with and how you cannot really be friends with a guy, especially if you are married (according to H).

One I am seeing today, whom I have been friends with for about 25 years has never dated a girl and we wonder if he is gay (he acts it). My husband is friendly with him but not on a get together basis like me. I do not eve ruse this guy as a confidante or to listen to my problems, nor YG either. I do nor flirt with him at all. We laugh and tell stories, talk about whats going on in life, etc. We know each other's extended families so talk about that as well. He knows my kids and is friendly with them. 

The YG name came up because I explained the situation regarding the get together and how it came about. I told him several months ago I thought he mau have a crush on me (even though I too was flirting I was still trying to keep it honest).

I explained I care about him but not looking for anything or to have get togethers or be best buds. He says I am naive when it comes to men and do not realize they can like me for more than friends. I told him as long as I keep it strictly friends it doesn't matter, that I cannot control how someone else feels but I will not lead someone on and I will always let him know if or when I do something (I always do anyway).  I feel this was the right thing to do as it keeps it honest and it keeps me towing the line and not getting into trouble should I ever be deluding myself. I like that we can communicate this way. Our relationship has come a very long way. I feel like I am in a very good place.

We'll see how it goes.