SWEET, SAD MEMORIES

Today was Black Friday and since I didn't plan to shop in the mayhem, I entertained/tortured myself with that hours-long video of our friends get-together at my parents' home, and my dad's family reunion the following day, 20 yrs. ago in 1990.  We all looked great then -- the parents, aunts, and uncles were the "old folks."  As I watched, I wanted to laugh and cry at the same time;  we had such fun re-living days of our youth.  My mom and dad were there in the background, enjoying visiting with all these happy, laughing "middle-aged " friends and relatives.
You didn't grow up with this group, but became part of it as the years passed and looked forward to our fun times as much as I. Little did we know that Vernon, my wonderful cousin from GA, would die before another year passed - at the age of 53.  He always had a video camera in his hand, and he made this treasured record of that memorable weekend.  It boggles my mind to count the ones who were present at the family reunion and are now gone -- even you, my love.   My parents, aunts, uncles, cousins  -- so happy to be together that day.  This is the "order of things;"  this is life.  I knew all of you were gone before I watched this today, but you were #21 of that group to leave us.  [I wrote them all down after watching.]  I'm so glad I was part of that family and shared the love and laughter that was so abundant.  I'm also glad that you and I were at those reunions down through the years of our marriage, and you were loved by my loved ones.  I shed a few tears as I watched that long-ago weekend unfold;  but I laughed alot, and enjoyed reliving that special time with you.

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OnMyOwn2010
OnMyOwn2010

How wonderful to have those video memories to lokk back upon...even though they may be bittersweet...my family is scattered to the 4 winds...we don\'t have family reunions, but summers always brought a visit from at least one of my aunts and their family, sometimes both...those were enjoyable times...and I have my memeories of them. Hubby\'s family on his mom\'s side used to hold a reunion every year, but as the older generations have been called home one by one, the reunion is not the priority it once was...we attended several times over the years while we were married and everyone always made me feel like I was as much a a part of that large extended family as he was...how blessed your husband must have felt to have enjoyed that same kind of acceptance...
...thanks for sharing..Blessings and Hugs, ~E~
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Hi Dear, Oh, I felt like I was sitting there with you,as you probably took turns laughing at this one or that one...oh time does fly...and we don\'t realize how quickly until we see we are one of the few left. This happened to me when we were looking at albums last month. But , here we are dear friend. with love, Ann
lindanne
lindanne

How wonderful to want to spend time watching videos of your loved ones. I have some that include my husband but can\'t seem to bring myself to watch them yet. It is all so painful still. It is terrific that you got to cry and laugh at the same time and bring back wonderful times to you mind.
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Bittersweet laughs and tears. I guess that\'s really what makes up life. I haven\'t worked up the courage yet to look at the videos but I\'m glad that they\'re there.
Linda
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how envious i am that you have such a video. i have boxes of photos, but no moving memories of my family or bob, and it makes me very sad.
i am so sorry that you have lost 21 people in your life, that is simply too much suffering. but you are so wise to know how blessed you were and are to have been surrounded by so much good in your life as well.
wishing you peace and sending hugs
judi
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Great bittersweet memories...........and the circle in the end will be unbroken.............blessings
Lori
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It is sad and bittersweet to look at family pictures and realize that so many of them have gone on. The days here on earth seem long to us now but someday we will all be rejoiced in a place where there will be new souls coming and no one leaving ever again.
Hugs, Dianne