Support Group
I saw the primary physician last Tuesday through special appointment. Off of the Lexapro and now on Cymbalta, 30 mg. I had reached a point where the daily anxiety was killing me, in addition to waking up at early hours, the mind starts and the anxiety and fears kick in. Reached a point where I knew I was not functioning anymore, nor had an interest in anything period. Would go to a store, and just the world are running around me. Primary said the Cymbalta will not mask the grief feelings that the counselor was concerned about, as he was in full agreement. She says that we all need different tools to help us through our journey. I did attend a bereavement support group for the first time last night. My friend Jan went with me, for she and her husband feel the impact of my husband's passing too. It was a very good step for me. Just sitting in the beginner's group and talking about me, my fears, etc. And they all say you're not crazy. While you are talking, you are reminding us of us, how we were a while back. Gives me a sense of hope, and that I don't need to be in pain or cry all the time to mourn my loss. I felt that if I wasn't in pain, nor cried, I didn't care about my husband anymore, or I would not feel love for him, or forget him. Not true, I've been told. Also discussed the fear of not wanting to go home anymore. Everyone nodding and saying they were that way too. Stay, stay, stay, for at least a year. If you move away, you will still feel the same way you do right now. Plus, you've added a double or triple loss to the loss you already have. I was the first to say I would never attend a support group, but now, I totally feel different.
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I joined a grief group right after my husband passed away and it helped me a lot. Its been almost 9 month now and the ladies and I still hang out. They make me feel normal. It will help you even if you dont think you need it. I only went because I promised my friend and it turned out to be a great thing.
Hang in there!!
Well, I didn\'t think I needed it, and in some weird way, I still don\'t think so. But I know I want to be there, read the books they gave me, and write in the journal.
Good for you. I am thinking a joining a support group locally. Keep me posted on your sessions. Their comments can help others in the same situation.
The next session is Monday, and I am going, whether I want to or not. One of the ladies there asked if I was coming back, for she said that when she first came, she didn\'t think it was going to help, but it does. Encouraging for me. I don\'t feel out of place there at all. A bonus.
Debbie -- Try the support group. The first one I went to was \"not for me.\" But I gave it another chance, with another group, and I did feel it was helpful. The best healing for me was this site. But it takes awhile, no matter what. I am almost a year now from losing Jim to Brain Cancer. I cry much less now, but the pain and the void I feel -- it\'s still very much with me each and every day. Blessings to you, Debbie. We are all on the same journey. Barbara
I truly believe you\'re making the right choices and you only need to continue moving through the emotions. A support group helped me a lot in the beginning and I\'m glad I attended. Good going, Keep up the good work. Sharon
I don\'t know what\'s wrong with me at the present, but I feel heavy inside. I\'m not in pain, I don\'t cry. It\'s like he didn\'t exist, but I know I lost him.
Could it be that the anti-depressant is numbing your emotions?