Supervisor
I had the stupid meeting today, and it was everything I already knew, but also made changes on. I feel like he made it bigger than what it was big time, and that he refused to listen to me by not believing me that I have made those changes. Some of the stuff I have little to no control over, especially when it comes to co-workers. All of it was from the emails, which are not even professional anyways. He lied to me on many occasions and was not consistent too. From the very beginning, I knew he was not trustworthy because of his position and having his MA in Marriage and Family Therapy. In fact, I think what started all of this was the fact I changed masters programs, but he also feels threatened/intimidated by me because I have more schooling than him. He mentioned on the insubordination communication, which is a crock, that it was verbally and written. Not true at all. How come my other coworkers can get away with it, but I can't? They question him right away, and he responds, but with me it is like I can't because it is only for clarification anyways. Now that I think of it with his conduct towards me, of course was cold, but he spoke fast, so that means his anxiety was up. He knew he was crossing my boundaries to do this because he knew he was in the wrong, and that includes the quietness that occured when I told him that I did make those changes. I decided that I basically have to be quiet or speak very little, and no more e-mails because now I have to send a carbon copy to the director. I can tell already that he doesn't want to send me an e-mail because it could incriminate him too. I am very upset. Do you all have any advice in dealing with supervisors? I am a terrible mess.
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It sounds like he is intimidated by you. Stay strong and keep your chin up. You can get through this! xxx
hope your day is better....
speak the truth in love (respectfully), do not become a man pleaser, but do all things unto the Lord knowing that we are working for Him in all we do...
sometimes when we are Christians, more is expected from us at work, at home, wherever...when someone knows we really want to do what\'s right, they make it harder on us, and then if you are like me, i am a very sensitive girl, i take things to heart and feel like it is an attack on my character. a wise pastor told me once, \"Have a soft heart, but thick skin.\"
God bless you!
Im really sorry your going through all of this with him. Honestly, I would pray for him and the situation. And as the old saying goes \"kill him with kindness\"
I hope things turn around for you soon
There are times we just have to bite the bullet. I used to think working with men was easier but you just don\'t know. Just take to the Lord in prayer and kill him later, just kidding! LOL!!!! Good idea the the penalty is to pricey, right! I thought you could use a good laugh. Be blessed my friend, don\'t sweat the small stuff because its all small stuff.