Stuck in the doldrums

Ever feel like you are stuck in the doldrums.  The doldrums are an area in the middle of the world near the equator that get very little wind.  This area was also called the Horse Lattitudes because ships would often throw horses overboard to lighten the load onboard the ship in an attempt to excape the doldrums. Sailors would avoid these areas because being becalmed was a real danger.  If they were becalmed for an extended period of time the rations on board the boat could be depleted and the rations would be reduced.   I am stuck in the Doldrums and my boat is becalmed.  I can neither move forward or go backward because every move I do for a while is dependant on my wife.  She is the only person, at this point, that is making the calls on weither or not we try to work things out.   This is so fustrating for a person like me who likes to plan everything.  Not only do I plan everything, but I like to have backup plans for everything.   I have been told that I am a type of person who likes to make other people happy.  This also another thing bothering me because I always want people to be happy and I try so very hard.  I feel that I failed to keep my wife happy and it hurts.   The way that boats would get out of the doldrums was they would eventually catch some wind and sail North, out of the area where this happens.  Sometimes they would get lucky and a storm would blow up and they would be able to move out of the doldrums. I am hoping that, one way or another, I am out of the doldrums soon and sailing the trade winds.