stupid

yes - very stupid - T didn't come home last night.  I am so angry at my stupidity.  What in the hell was I thinking?  He was acting shady yesterday and squirmed out of celebrating his birthday in any shape or form.  No brunch (like he said would work) no dinner out and we never got to sing to him - cake still sitting on the counter. PenPal - I do believe the other day was on the up and up but he kept talking about his b-day. 

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Gesh! I would feel hurt and disappointed. You were excited and happy to share in this celebration and he let you down. We do wonder \"what were they thinking??\" right? Sorry the bottom fell out of your plans and hope he realizes he hurt your feelings. This would be hard for me because birthdays are a big deal in our family. 18 is a big deal! Is it just showing his new independence? I\'m sorry this happened, and maybe he will make amends. Perhaps focusing on what YOU like and want will help. Hugs to you!
mom-of-3
mom-of-3

He\'s home. Came home this morning. Saying he fell asleep at this friend\'s house. He seems \"fine\" - whatever \"fine\" is. I did tell him, however, that he actually has less freedom than he did before and if this happens again - there will be strong consequences.....
deleted_user
deleted_user

To skip a birthday celebration,even just cake around the kitchen table, is not only hurtful but selfish. Same goes for the lack of a phone call about spending the night.... I am sorry to hear that the birthday turned out the way it did! Take Care
deleted_user
deleted_user

I have a bad feeling about T, having read a lot of your entries over the last few months. My son stopped acknowledging all birthdays, holidays, etc. including his own birthday, a couple of years ago. I have watched his sisters become disappointed at his refusal to acknowledge these events, and then finally give up and not expect anything from him. I still make him a cake, but we celebrate it without him when he doesn\'t show up. Even on Mother\'s Day I was proud of myself that I didn\'t really expect even a kind word from him, it showed that I had detached from his illess. I think T not allowing his family to celebrate his birthday in a traditional way is a cry for help. It doen\'t sound like you are the type to stalk you son as I have done in the past to prove when he was back on drugs, but a little snooping might help, just so you know what you are dealing with. It sounds to me like he is slipping, sorry to say, and I hope I\'m wrong.