Stress
I hate stress. Right now I'm trying to work and pack/ pare down so I don't have as much when I move back to Phhoenix, Az to stay with my 90yo Grandpa. The family thinks it's a good idea since I'm the only single person left and I don't own a house. Just so you know I did grow up there but have been in Washington state for 13.5 years now. The biggest + is no rent. It's just that right now my body is trying to rebel against everything I do. I'm just trying to deal with Migrains. I'm just glad that I'm getting some time to myself, but then again that's a problem of too much time to think and double think about e.d. It's a double edge sword which is almost impossible to deal with. Just hoping for money to go to treatment and take some me time w/o any responsibilities except to focus on treatment
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im glad that u realize that u and ur ED are out of hand and that something needs to change...u have to decide to go and actually go to treatment urself...no one will do it for u...then all that life has to offer will be urs for the taking!
I get the stress you\'re feeling. After my TBI, I lost my home and had to move back home to live with my brother and my father because my father had started having strokes and needed 24/7 care. The stress of losing the house, moving, having to get this basement ready to live in, clipping my freedom wings.....All of it took a toll. Hopefully you will continue to look at the bright side of this move and know that everything is as it should be. Keep your eyes open for opportunities that, otherwise, wouldn\'t have presented themselves. Enjoy the time with your Grandpa-that you\'ll never regret. You\'re providing peace of mind to him and to the rest of your family by staying with him. Good luck to you. :)
oh lordy lordy girl
i did this and i had to get OUT. i moved in with ym great aunt in 2003 because i had no money adn was recovering from a horrible bout with my illness (including kidney failure and stroke). everyone thought it was a good idea because i needed somewhere cheap/ free to live and she was alone.
let me tell you it sucked the damn life out of me. i was in no shape to be responsible for an elderly person. she was pretty healthy, but very needy emotinoally, and that is draining.
and should she have become incapacitated, the responsibility would have been all mine, as i was in the hosue, therefore it would be in my lap.
my friend told me get out ebfore she breaks a hip adn you become her nursemaid. i left after 9 months. the fact is the family likes the idea becuase none of them want to take care of him.
i moved into a friend\'s house, where he tralked my ear off, and i slept on a flimsy air mattress in his unariconditioned computer room- and i couldn\'t go to bed til he was done surfing the net somewhere around 3am. and it was still carefree compared to waiting for the axe to fall on ym great aunt, and me being suddenly responsible 24/7. with someone that old it\'s not if, but when. when will they need a lot of help.
my 2 cents. and more.
I cared for my 89 year old mother the last 5 months of her life. She left her room rental in a sheltered living situation and lived with me and my husband. She was nearly blind from glaucoma, needed 7 small meals a day and help with bathroom functions about 7 times a day, for 1/2 hour each time. Getting her on her feet, walking to the bathroom or portapotty, waiting for her to be finished, and getting her back to bed. She wasn\'t excessively needy, but appreciated my reading to her and talking about interesting things. She had radio programs she liked. I arranged for a government program with someone coming in twice a week to check her physical condition. You would need to see what is available where your grandfather lives.
Since she was no longer spending money on the boarding home, she paid it to me instead, and my 2 brothers who were not in a position to assume the responsibility agreed I should be paid a small (very small) legally amount in addition for caring for her 16 hours a day. Subsequently, our father died and left 8 low income rental units to be disposed of by the estate. I did a lot of physical work on some of the property and was supposed to be paid $6000 for the work, I never got a cent, or any of the money when the properties were sold. Beware of relatives who want you to assume all the work. Be sure you protect yourself legally, financially, and emotionally. Define up front what you will and will not do. See what other resources are available where he lives, and use them for yourself and him.