I truly understand the storm. Just consider this. There was a woman and she knew she needed to get to her son who was in a car wreck.
One Way
She wanted to immediately be with him so she pushed forth, driving to the site of the wreck: wanting desperately to help him. She fought her way through traffic, on the phone trying to find out which hospital they were sending him too. As she got near the accident site, traffic was at a standstill and so she pulled over and ran the rest of the way to only learn that the ambulance already picked him up and he was in route to the nearest trauma center. Afterward she had to ran back to her car and drove the hour back to the hospital and finally arrived: exhausted, emotionally a wreck, but happy to finally be with her son.
Another way.
This same woman in the same situation takes 10 deep breaths. She collects herself and makes the necessary phone calls to find out where her son is being sent before jumping in the car. On the way she calls some friends too meet her as well as picks up her son\'s favorite book. When she gets to the hospital, she immediately sees her son and is relieved to be there and with support of friends, she\'s able to offer her son some comfort by reading to him and presenting a calm face. She is just as happy to be with her son.
As you can see, in the middle of a storm there are two ways to behave.
It\'s difficult, but sometimes better to step back for just a minute and collect ourselves, our thoughts and emotions. Then make a plan rather than rushing head forward and reacting as each crisis emerges.
Try to give yourself some time. What will you loose if you don\'t make a decision today or tomorrow?
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I hear ya & know exactly how you feel.
I truly understand the storm. Just consider this. There was a woman and she knew she needed to get to her son who was in a car wreck.
One Way
She wanted to immediately be with him so she pushed forth, driving to the site of the wreck: wanting desperately to help him. She fought her way through traffic, on the phone trying to find out which hospital they were sending him too. As she got near the accident site, traffic was at a standstill and so she pulled over and ran the rest of the way to only learn that the ambulance already picked him up and he was in route to the nearest trauma center. Afterward she had to ran back to her car and drove the hour back to the hospital and finally arrived: exhausted, emotionally a wreck, but happy to finally be with her son.
Another way.
This same woman in the same situation takes 10 deep breaths. She collects herself and makes the necessary phone calls to find out where her son is being sent before jumping in the car. On the way she calls some friends too meet her as well as picks up her son\'s favorite book. When she gets to the hospital, she immediately sees her son and is relieved to be there and with support of friends, she\'s able to offer her son some comfort by reading to him and presenting a calm face. She is just as happy to be with her son.
As you can see, in the middle of a storm there are two ways to behave.
It\'s difficult, but sometimes better to step back for just a minute and collect ourselves, our thoughts and emotions. Then make a plan rather than rushing head forward and reacting as each crisis emerges.
Try to give yourself some time. What will you loose if you don\'t make a decision today or tomorrow?
The Serenity Prayer from AA always helps me:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
and if I\'ve had a particularly bad day I add, under my breath of course, \"...and the cunning to bury the bastard where he can\'t be found\". lol
Hugs, Marina