still not used to it, completely

T didn't come home last night but walked in the door @ 9:45AM.  He said it was too late to call last night to let me know he was staying at his friend's house.  He's fine. His temperament is so even.  His friend dropped him off because he had to go to work.  I know T was telling the truth that he had slept there because this friend has dropped him off before at this time.  This friend seems like a nice kid.  Of course - it fell on deaf ears when I told him he can't just not let us know.  He said that time got away from him and thought it was too late to call.  Never on a cell.  I will remind him of that.   J went off early this morning to ref soccer with his dad.  After reffing some games he's going to the art museum with his (girl)friend.  I finally asked him if they were an "item" and he said that they are just friends.  He spends a lot of time with her.  T has been dating his gf for 2 months. Wish he'd bring her around more.  It's strange.  During his using days, he destroyed the basement so he says he has nowhere to go in our house. Family room?  Guess that doesn't fly.  Maybe having her sit and watch movies here at our house will remind him too much of his house arrest days when his other girlfriend would come over?  Who knows? 

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Curious about destroyed basement. Has he offered to \"help\" repair/patch and paint it yet? M. did the same thing to her room, and we had to basically renovate it while she was in residential. If she so much as puts a mark on the wall, I am on her big time. Resanding oak floor, replaced drywall, patched so many holes it took days to let it dry, then repatch & sand, etc., etc. She has apologized many times for destroying our property and thanked us for making room for her to come back. She asks for permission to put up a picture even. So, maybe T. can help repay you for his destruction by repairing his damage?
mom-of-3
mom-of-3

It was supposed to be \"our\" project this summer but we still have the other son. He does his abstract paintings down there and I don\'t want to chance putting $ into just yet. My husband does but I have mixed feelings about it.

T messed his room up, too. We\'ve made improvements but he has no desire to fix it up - fine. Whatever.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I understand your worry as I would have been worrying myself. Maybe next time he\'ll know now that he should call no matter how late it is.