Still here
Well it has been a week since I found the courage to talk to my wife. This past week she was very distant and ambivalent. I saw an attorney just for information on Wednesday and my counselor on Thursday. I approached my wife on Wednesday evening about joint counseling and she said she thought that I should just go alone for now. I tried asking what she wanted, that I could do to help us and she just said that she did not know. So more of the same! It took so much for me to go to her last weekend, and I feel that was a step forward. I do not want to “Wait Until After the Holidays” to discuss things. I do not want to become stagnate again. But I too am finding it very hard not to be ambivalent also. Have another meeting with my counselor this week, but she can’t seem to provide me with new things for me to work on right now. It is as if the world wants me to stand still. Arraaagggggg! Ok I’m starting to feel drained again.
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i can only imagine how difficult it was for you to go to her and talk with her... that took a lot of courage, wistom. she does sound ambivalent... like she doesn\'t know what she wants/doesn\'t want...
i think it is very wise of you to go ahead and seek counselling even if she does not want to join you at this time... please know, you won\'t be wasting your money or time... not when you are working on yourself... a good therapist can help you look at things you may not catch by yourself.
my husband and i looked at part 4 of the \"Love & Respect\" DVD teaching series... this resource has saved my marriage... because it \"spoke\" to my H\'s heart... even my young adult kids have checked out some of it and are already recommending it to their married friends! are you willing to check it out? the website is from the states... there are conferences in the states all the time... if that was your thing.... and yes, i have heard of one spouse checking this resource out even if the other was not into it.
you are a man of honour, wistom... and i know you want to do the next right thing... and all that is within YOUR power to do. we are rooting for you good friend.
i will keep you in my prayers also.
my bad, i said, \"wistom\"... i meant \"WT\"!!!!
please forgive me ;op
i only recently woke up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!