Step Mother---Again!!!!!
(If you haven't read my earlier journal post about stepmother)
Well...I visited my stepmother....BAD mistake! I was there not even five minutes.......she started talking crap about my deceased father!---The man who kept her up for 32 years while she sit at home and did nothing but watch soap operas!!! I told her I may never come see her again---ever!!!
See....my father and I were VERY close...he went home to be with the LORD in 2007....I know he is in a better place and I will see him again...but I miss him still! My stepmother would not even attend his services!!!!???? And she shed about 4, maybe 5 completely fake tears over him??? Me....I cried...cried....cried.....cried some more.....backslide from GOD (although i have since repented)....turned to alcohol....almost died....and still cry over him.
Well...I visited my stepmother....BAD mistake! I was there not even five minutes.......she started talking crap about my deceased father!---The man who kept her up for 32 years while she sit at home and did nothing but watch soap operas!!! I told her I may never come see her again---ever!!!
See....my father and I were VERY close...he went home to be with the LORD in 2007....I know he is in a better place and I will see him again...but I miss him still! My stepmother would not even attend his services!!!!???? And she shed about 4, maybe 5 completely fake tears over him??? Me....I cried...cried....cried.....cried some more.....backslide from GOD (although i have since repented)....turned to alcohol....almost died....and still cry over him.
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as i don\'t know the details of the things that she said or any details about her either. I will say anger is one part of the grieving process. That said she sounds like an evil.... well yeah, but anyhow. Whether she is grieving herself still and the anger stage is where she stuck or whether she simply didn\'t care and was just in it for a free ride i cant say. What i can say is i am sorry you have to deal with her cold hearted comments. She is going to have to learn the hard way that her behaviour will lose her far more in life it seems.
NA, was this a recent visit? I ask this because some of the sentences are much like what you said in a similar visit? In any case, if you feel you need to talk through this just know that many of us are here for you...You did the right thing to tell you step Mom you\'re done with her selfish loathing....There is no need to visit if she\'s going to continue to make you miserable...
I know you miss your Father but just know he\'s in a better place and God called him earlier and yes, you will have the opportunity one day when life is done to enjoin him and share all the great things God has in store for each of you and who knows perhaps for lagniappe you and I may meet on good soil with all God\'s people...Amen
Thanks to you both for the great advice.
Yes Cajunboy2, this visit was yesterday.
And you are right! GOD\'s plan is always better:)
God Bless you, I just lost my Mom in November and yes it is hard. Try if you can to ask God to help you through the pain and to help you remember all the great times you had with your Dad. Try if you can to only communicate with people who make you feel good. It will help in the mourning of your Dad. He would want to see you happy as can be. As hard as it is pray for your Step Mom or whomever she is. As hard as it is he stayed for a reason and that was likely because he loved her. Sometimes when you open your heart there is many gifts. You are a gift and you deserve to be happy. Concentrate on what makes you happy inside and out. God Bless You!
I am very for your loss I lost my mother 2 years ago .......I wanted her to not suffer aney longer and I knew the longer she hung on the more she would suffer so I thought I would be ok because I knew ware she was going ......but 4 months later I had to talk to my doctor beause I was doing worse and he told me that even though I didn\'t think I was going through grieving and when I think of my mother it is good memories the doctor said. That my bodie was going through the greasing proses eneway ..............for you you got stuck in the anger I don\'t know if you see this ......but you have to give away the anger to move forward .......your stepmother is not worth you to spend eney time on her not even worth your time being angry at her ......forget her go on with your life ....try to leave the anger behind .......you can then let the grieving come to an end ware you can think of your father with the good things you had between you .........just between the two of you ...all that was good .....and it will become easer ........I hope that you find happiness and rember the love of your father when you think of him ......and let it make you smile .........take care ....god bless
Very sorry for your loss, as far as your step mother. We will all stand before the judgment seat of Christ.