Starting allover with a positive life

So I never communicated with my ex, the recent calamaties had prompted him to IM me last October twice. Probably because he knew it was my birthday. The first attempt he made was so lame but I ignored it anyway. The second one, he caught me online and started asking about the typhoon and all those stuff---but I didn't show him a tiny glimpse of interest in talking.I;m pretty amazed with myself how much I can show such indifference..but I guess that's just me. I'm no longer angry but I didn't see the point of keeping in contact with him, I guess I knew that he's lost more than I am..and he needs to validate that he's a good man by not leaving things behind without us being friends. I wonder sometimes if I should give him that priviledge, but I don't see any use in that for me personally. I never want to be close with him anymore--too scared that he might use me as his comfort zone again. I think 7 years is enough---I'm so ready to explore the world. Now I've met a couple of guys, some of them turned out to be cool friends or probably might be something more--but I am honestly not ready for anything right now. As much as I am inlove with the idea of falling inlove, I know I am not ready to feel that again--probably just some crush and smily moments..knowing there's a lot of fish out there--learning about the game and dating and being someone new and exciting..and not knowing what's going to happen...it's all making me feel alive and makes me smile everyday. There are a lot of things I need to fix personally, the whole break up left me lost--and I still feel such loss in direction right now..I;m still recovering from the toll of a very bad year..but I know I am going to be okay because life has a lot more to offer now that I am free and happy.