Squirkles
" make a left turn"....... Tried to offer moral support but my efforts to support were taken in the context that she is unable to stand on her own.
"Make another left turn" I tried to offer financial support as tax time is coming around and I expect a return large enough to hold us per until I have our baby and can safely go back to work, that was taken as if she can't take care of herself financially so instead of seeing it as OUR money as I always do she sees it as a HERS and MINE situation so she won't even let me help her business wise. I look at it as an investment, I back her financially now and the boost in business will help us financially later but she doesn't see it like that.
"Make another left turn" I try to get involved in her business more since its such a big part of her life, when things are good they are great, but when hints are bad they are horrible. If I stay out of her business then she feels like I'm not helpin or not supportive but if I try to get involved when things go bad with the business she brings it into our personal.
"Make a final left turn and you have arrived at your destination" ....... Right back where we started not really accomplishing much. Idk what to do at this point, every time something goes bad she makes it feel like its my fault. If I'm involved then that's why it went wrong, if I stay out of the way then my lack of involvement is why it went wrong. She wants me to help but only when and how she says to help. I try to give her advise to better things and it gets taken as me pointing out her flaws; if I don't say anything and I just sit back and let things go sour it's because I "wanted them to fail"...........
Idk what to do at this point because I need her to be successful. She does so much for others so she deserves success but she holds herself back at times and I can't keep with the back and forth becaus she just doesn't understand how much I need her right now and in the time to come. I need her to get it together and hold it because with everything going on on my me I'm about to loose it and we both can't be loopy. I try to hold it together as best as I can for her but when it gets to the point that no matter what I do it's still not helpful then I have to cut my loses and realize that whatever she is looking for isn't something I have to offer her because nothing I say or do is cutting it so I have learned another valuable lesson and know to stay in my place.
When it comes to her business I will be seen & not heard, and only speak when spoken to. Hopefully that helps.
"Make another left turn" I tried to offer financial support as tax time is coming around and I expect a return large enough to hold us per until I have our baby and can safely go back to work, that was taken as if she can't take care of herself financially so instead of seeing it as OUR money as I always do she sees it as a HERS and MINE situation so she won't even let me help her business wise. I look at it as an investment, I back her financially now and the boost in business will help us financially later but she doesn't see it like that.
"Make another left turn" I try to get involved in her business more since its such a big part of her life, when things are good they are great, but when hints are bad they are horrible. If I stay out of her business then she feels like I'm not helpin or not supportive but if I try to get involved when things go bad with the business she brings it into our personal.
"Make a final left turn and you have arrived at your destination" ....... Right back where we started not really accomplishing much. Idk what to do at this point, every time something goes bad she makes it feel like its my fault. If I'm involved then that's why it went wrong, if I stay out of the way then my lack of involvement is why it went wrong. She wants me to help but only when and how she says to help. I try to give her advise to better things and it gets taken as me pointing out her flaws; if I don't say anything and I just sit back and let things go sour it's because I "wanted them to fail"...........
Idk what to do at this point because I need her to be successful. She does so much for others so she deserves success but she holds herself back at times and I can't keep with the back and forth becaus she just doesn't understand how much I need her right now and in the time to come. I need her to get it together and hold it because with everything going on on my me I'm about to loose it and we both can't be loopy. I try to hold it together as best as I can for her but when it gets to the point that no matter what I do it's still not helpful then I have to cut my loses and realize that whatever she is looking for isn't something I have to offer her because nothing I say or do is cutting it so I have learned another valuable lesson and know to stay in my place.
When it comes to her business I will be seen & not heard, and only speak when spoken to. Hopefully that helps.
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