Sons B day I am so F ING pissed
I am So F ING PISSED, Its my sons 17th birthday, not a f ing card, email text, phoe call to him from his F ing mother. He says it does not matter, but I see it. I have never...never seen someone so cold hearted , cruel to their own flesh and blood. To the oldest son, he wants his ass wiped, and she would do it. I can not believe this, what a B@#%H. He is so hurt, it breaks my heart.. F her. And she wonders why he wants nothing to do with her! I am going to tell the attorney, I want the judge to know what a cold hearted bitch she is. I was going to call her and tell her myself , but that is against court rulings. I had to cool down a bit.
I took out my son with his grandpa, nice dinner, took him out earlier and gave him some funds to do with what he likes.
Damm I feel so bad for my son, It make me cry!!!!!
I took out my son with his grandpa, nice dinner, took him out earlier and gave him some funds to do with what he likes.
Damm I feel so bad for my son, It make me cry!!!!!
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I still cant get over it, I am so F ing mad!
I would be counting my blessings on this one. Yes, your son\'s feelings are hurt and he will carry that with him. She is not interferring with your son\'s life. He won\'t turn out like his brother.
Keep quiet on this one because she might decide she wants him in her life to get back at you.
Feel bad for him, get him counseling but don\'t let her know how you feel about this.
I understand, but you have got to stay out of his relationship (or lack thereof) with his mom. He is 17, not 5. This is part of what\'s going to help him process all this-I know it hurts you but this is HER mess, not yours.
She is making her choices and will have to deal with the consequences.
Individual counseling will help him-he may be stronger than you think.
There\'s nothing you can do about it except be there for him. You can\'t control what she does, nor can you control how your son feels about it. From what I gather he was going for therapy - is he still going? It might be helpful for him to continue to get some of the hurt out. He\'s not going to want to talk to you about it that\'s for sure.
Please know that it also hurts him when you talk bad about her. Please try, try, try your best to keep any derogatrory comments to yourself. No matter what - through everything - she\'s still his mother and sometimes kids feel like it\'s an extension of them - just like you feel he\'s an extension of you.
I\'m sorry that you are so upset - try to devert your thinking to something else, because all it\'s going to do is get you more and more pissed off.
Oh - btw - Happy Birthday to your boy!
Yes, Happy Birthday to your son! I\'m sure he appreciates all that you do for him.
Deep breaths and baby steps.
What learned from my X is that you can\'t control other people...
So shut her out of your mind and focus on making your son\'s birthday the best yet! As a child of nasty selfish parents myself, I went through this same thing... He\'ll still feel pain about it, but that\'s between the two of them that they\'ll have to work that out for themselves in the future.... YOU and him are an entirely different issue and it\'s up to YOU to make sure that YOUR anger doesn\'t affect YOUR relationship with HIM.
Good luck and Happy Birthday to your almost adult son!
Happy birthday to your son. Someday she will be sorry she missed out on his life and his love.
Thanks guys , i vent here and at the counslers, i dont in front of him. I expect,expect that she sould at least act like a loving mother. But the problem is i expect. It will not happen. Yes , i did not do this and it is a good thing she is not involved. This whole nightmare is really just so sureal. What she has done and continues to do.