Sold the House!

Since the moment my son died I've been complaining how I cant stand to live in the house I raised my son in. That the memories were torturing me every second I had to live here. Well, last night we found a buyer and all is set except the paper work because its a holiday weekend. This morning I found myself wanting to just lay in Jarrett's room and cry. Its going to be so hard to leave this house forever...but i know I need to. We didn't ask for this tragedy, and if it didn't happen I would have still wanted to sell the house. We need this to start this new life we've been forced into, this insane altered reality. I know God led us to a buyer so quickly, so why am I so sad?

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Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

It makes sense to me... this is a house where so many of your most precious and beloved memories are. Of course you are feeling sad my friend. Yet, just as many have said before me wherever you go Jarrett will be with you as he lives in your heart. If a fresh start is what you are feeling then I do believe it unfolded just as it needed to because I know of houses that are on the market for months/years before they are sold. Allow all the emotions to BE as they are and move into the sadness and allow it to inform you... it has much to say and I suspect all of it will speak to your mother\'s heart. Lots of work ahead of you and I hope that you will have many hands to make the job lighter. Don\'t forget to pause as in those pauses I have discovered are my healing moments. Thinking of you! Love and hugs, Joanie
deleted_user
deleted_user

I, too, am moving and will put my house up for sale. My April and I lived here together for almost 8 years (it will be 8 years in August). I understand exactly how you feel, there\'s such ambivalence involved, but this is something you apparently need to do and I KNOW I need to do. There are too many spots in this house that bring too much pain, places she would hug me, places she would occupy, I can\'t stay here. When God moves in your life so quickly, I consider that a sign that you\'re on the right path. As hard as it will be to deal with the final departure, and his things (furniture, clothes), you can and will deal with it. Moving is a huge stresser all by itself, let alone under these circumstances. Someone posted an analogy between life and the interior of a car: the rear view mirror is small -- the past is behind us -- the windshield is huge -- the future is ahead of us. Keep an eye on the future. I will keep you in my prayers.
Mantanona
Mantanona

Thanks Guys, I know this has to be the right move. In a time when the economy is so bad and houses are on the market for a long time, we found a buyer in just under two months after Jarrett died and only weeks after making that decision to sell. I just finished packing the rest of Jarretts things. and every item I put in that cardboard box felt like burying him all over again..The tears just kept coming..
MomofJosh
MomofJosh

Michelle, I know things are so hard right now. Since your house sold so fast i know God is leading you to new things. I will be praying for you.
With love,
Leda
Mantanona
Mantanona

Arrgh! So The buyers came up a little short on their loan, so we had to work out an Rent to own agreement. They obligate to renting the house for a year with the intent to purchase once they are able to reapply for a slightly larger amount. Its a huge leap of faith because if they pull out we are left with a mortgage & a house we dont want and not enough income to buy a new house, so we will temporarily move on post for a year till we work it out..My best friend Nat is a Realtor and is going to call me an idiot for doing this but If it gets me out of the house then, so be it..The worst thing that can happen is they pull out and we end up back in this house in a year, but even if that does happen maybe I\'ll be healed enough that it wont be torture to be here... Why does everything have to be so difficult for us?
deleted_user
deleted_user

I understand totally my sweet friend have wanted to move since Anthony died in this house but Matt needs to be here. Yet when I think of selling it is hard too. This journey has so many ups and downs love to you my friend
dougadoug
dougadoug

I, too, am considering a move from MA to FL. I am having conflicted feelings, but bottom line is I am being pulled in that direction. I don\'t see it as running away but as a new start, a start my son Matt desperately needs. Doug will be with me wherever I go. I am speaking with a realtor this week about putting the condo on the market. I know that when the day comes to leave this home I will shed some tears. Leaving this town will be hard, have lived here for 30 years, my kids grew up here. It will be hard to leave my comfort zone. But I have to admit I am feeling a little excitement. Best of luck to you. Love, Sue
ter1
ter1

It\'s good that your house sold so fast. I\'m sure it must be hard on you. The good memories still hurt so bad. You have started a new life, not by choice and not one that you would choose. Sending love, Terry
Mantanona
Mantanona

The deal on the house Fell through and so we listed it today..Hopefully it wont take too long to sell.. :(
CorriesMom
CorriesMom

Thinking of you as you re-list your home. You will find just the right buyers at just the right time.

xoxo Debbie