Social Worker
We are suppose to have a Social Worker come to the house to do an evaluation on mom and if they feel she can go back to the nursing home that she was happy at...I just can't seem to get her to understand that if she continues to try to clean the house or not ask for help they will not see her as necessary for the nursing home...yet when your with her daily you know he has such memory problems...last night again asking me if my husband is my husband..I know the way she says good morning to me she does not remember I am her daughter...yet she is trying to pretend...I love mom..she is not the mom I once knew..but I love her..but I can not take care of her..She requires more than I can give..Just keeping her knowing what the time is..is a task...She thinks 11 in the morning that it is all day and bed time...She acts so surprised when we tell her we just got up..This disease can be so confusing in that sometimes it seems the pretense is going on yet you know it is not...yet she still wants to be somewhat independent..all she really does is sweep the kitchen and make her bed but the possibility of her falling is there...it is so frustrating...
She sees someone on TV and just knows it is her sister...This disease is a mean disease...in that it gives back for maybe a bit..then takes it away...I know when I tell her not to do thing she feels I am being mean to her..she does not see it as trying to protect her...
My MRI is at 5 tonight then to the neurosurgeon tomorrow...I so wish my sister would have agreed to keep her Friday night so we could go to my grandson's football game as it is his senior year and Ken would so much want us to be there...as we so much want to be there..but will be so sad without Ken again....I am so thankful for my children..my grandchildren, my family...I want so much to go back in time before Ken found out he had cancer and it stay that way...but I know in reality that it will never be..but I can always wish.
Had a good dream of Ken last night...I do not remember what it was but know that he was not sick...My husband got restless and it woke me up...so i don't remember the dream just know I remember seeing Ken in it...Any little sight of him is a blessing...
Hope you have a good dream too...it helps...
I think I was hit with a scam on this site..someone asking for prayer for cancer for theirself...only to get a message today about wanting me to help with the distribution of her monies...she ask that you reply through her e-mail but I didn't..So I sent it to AnnM and just wanted to warn everyone to be careful...I like so many of us trust so easily...so beware of possible scams...how she came through looking as a friend I do not know because I do not remember a friends request...just be careful...
Take care everyone..Keep us in your prayers that things will work out for mom...that they can somehow fix whatever is causing my extreme pain for about 3 months now...
Love, Sandi
She sees someone on TV and just knows it is her sister...This disease is a mean disease...in that it gives back for maybe a bit..then takes it away...I know when I tell her not to do thing she feels I am being mean to her..she does not see it as trying to protect her...
My MRI is at 5 tonight then to the neurosurgeon tomorrow...I so wish my sister would have agreed to keep her Friday night so we could go to my grandson's football game as it is his senior year and Ken would so much want us to be there...as we so much want to be there..but will be so sad without Ken again....I am so thankful for my children..my grandchildren, my family...I want so much to go back in time before Ken found out he had cancer and it stay that way...but I know in reality that it will never be..but I can always wish.
Had a good dream of Ken last night...I do not remember what it was but know that he was not sick...My husband got restless and it woke me up...so i don't remember the dream just know I remember seeing Ken in it...Any little sight of him is a blessing...
Hope you have a good dream too...it helps...
I think I was hit with a scam on this site..someone asking for prayer for cancer for theirself...only to get a message today about wanting me to help with the distribution of her monies...she ask that you reply through her e-mail but I didn't..So I sent it to AnnM and just wanted to warn everyone to be careful...I like so many of us trust so easily...so beware of possible scams...how she came through looking as a friend I do not know because I do not remember a friends request...just be careful...
Take care everyone..Keep us in your prayers that things will work out for mom...that they can somehow fix whatever is causing my extreme pain for about 3 months now...
Love, Sandi
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Of course you love your mother, that\'s one of the things that make your situation so difficult. I wish you might show this jorurnal to the social worker, or keep a journal about your mom for a few days that you can show to the s.worker when she comes.
Special prayers and hugs for you today, love, Margery Ann
Alzheimers is a horrible disease... and I think so more for the family..
thanks for the heads up on the scammer... I have had a few people ask for friendship who I don\'t friend for that reason.. don\'t seem like FMO people...
Fingers crossed that your tests and MD visit go well..
Hugs, MaryLou
Hey Sandi, it really does seem like this nursing home she likes would be the best for her...I will pray that God works in the middle of this situation. I am so happy You have at least had to have some dreams of Ken...I either have not had dreams or can\'t remember them...But I am a very sound sleeper by nature...The love for your Mom comes through on the pages of these posts....You will be blessed in heaven for being such a loyal and loving daughter....praying for your family & your situation...Patti (Matt\'s Mom)
You sound like you\'re really hanging in there, despite everything. I\'m so glad you had a good dream of Ken.
Sending thoughts and prayers of good results for your MRI and your Mom\'s social worker visit.
With much love and big hugs to you and Ken ~ Debbie
Good to hear you had a good dream of Ken and I hope everything works out with placing your Mom in a good nursing home. Sending love and prayers your way, Terry
Hey Sandi,
I received that msg from the breast cancer person and deleted it, I have come to know what the scammers look like. It still makes me livid that anyone would prey upon grieving mothers...lowest of the low.
Hope the social worker can see the seriousness of your situation. Best of luck to you in finding a way to help your mom.
Hugs, Rebecca
Hi Sandi,
If the social worker can\'t see through the make-believe and coping of your mother, she\'s not really doing her job. There is a test called the Mini Mental State Exam.
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003326.htm
If this hasn\'t been done or isn\'t done again, ask for it. It will uncover the truth. The tricky part with some people is getting them to just do it... at all. My aunt and uncle wouldn\'t cooperate.
SO much love,
Sarah
So glad you had the dream about Ken. I just know he is sending you a sign that he is guiding you and sending you love. love and peace, Roselle