Sobbing
Basically that sums it up. I am a mess....all over so many things. I tried again, yet to just end up hurt in the long run. I see myself as being alone forever. That is just sad. I am so rock bottom right now, for today, I don't know how to climb to the surface. It sucks being alone.
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This is a temporary condition...just ride it out. Is there anything else that is exhausting you emotionally?
Hugs... LIke tiger said ride it out. YOu won\'t be there long. I think we have all reached our bottoms and then hit them again but its quicker and easier to climb out of it!
SUper duper hugs my dear
Grief and this is a grieving process was described to me as a whirlpool. You go round and round hitting all the stages multiple times but as you get towards the bottom or the end the lows are shorter and you recover quicker. It\'s not about being alone we can all find someone it\'s about wanting that ONE person to make it all better. I think you\'ve already found them and it\'s you. All of us suffer from the doubts about ourselves. Let all that crap go and just enjoy being you. Be honest make positive changes and like my boss always tells me. Be honest do the right thing and everything else will work out in the end. God Bless and remember you\'ve always have a shoulder to cry on here:)
You guys are the best. Scott and same with you....all this stuff I need to make up my mind for myself. I grieve the marriage, I grieve the children, I grieve the mistakes I am making and recently made due to trying too soon with someone or so I think. My heart breaks for possibly being alone due to major trust issues. I know I should be happy with that, and would be even if I had a friend, here, to share coffee or a night out, or dinner, or a trip with but I don\'t...just me and my boys. And I fear I am using them as a crutch, co-dependency issue, bc I don\'t have that outlet. JMO.
Work on getting healthy again. This will make the next relationship all the better as you will have even more to offer someone. Think kinda stuff is hard for anyone.
Love will find you again.
Well, at least you tried. About it being too soon? NOt sure about that?
Only you would really know! If you aren\'t done grieving the many losses, maybe it is better to wait a bit. When you feel more complete, and whole, by yourself, and focus on that, I think then would be the time to be \"ready\".
Don\'t focus on the part of \"being alone\" or worry about \"never finding the right person\". When I put those two to rest, and just accepted myself for who I was, with strengths and faults, the whole kit and kaboodle, I found my present husband. We all have baggage, it\'s just part of living life.
But the important part is:
What baggage is no longer serving its need?
What baggage are we ready to weed out?
How can we do it as quickly as possible?
And what do we choose to replace the old baggage with?
Try to minimize the negative, and maximize your positive! Just make that your mantra. Say it over and over until you do it! And, try to worry less, cuz you don\'t need to accelerate aging. But you do need to laugh more, love more, and enjoy the moment more! Just try it for one week, and see how you feel. Make a point of it, and let me know if it makes your outlook any better!
Happy New Year, sweetie! This old year is over, and who the heck knows what the new year has in store for you! But you have to get ready, and be able to receive it! More smiles, you look cuter that way!