So messed up...
Ok, where to begin. So the day after she starts dating this other guy, she texts me and keeps messaging me trying to be friends and saying we can still be friends. So we kind of were doing ok, just talking, and I was feeeling ok about it. So then that night, I see her new boyfriends ex on facebook. I start talking to her, and she tells me that my ex's new boyfriend has actually been texting HIS ex every day saying he loves her, even though she was now dating my ex. So I did the right thing and I told my ex, figuring she should know.
So then today I wake up to a text from my mom asking if I was ok. I said yes and asked why, and she told me that my ex's mom called her and told her that she was worried about me. Apparently they talked and they agreed that me and my ex shouldn't talk any more, at all. But I didn't know that til later, all my mom told me was that her mom called and was worried about me.
So then after school today I text her, and apparently her new boyfriend admitted to still having feelings for his ex. I truly felt bad for her, and wanted to make her feel better by sending her a gift that I had bought for her awhile ago. So I tell her I'm gonna make it up to her and send her something to make her happy. So literally, WHILE I am writing her a note and putting her address on the package, about to head out the door, she texts me and tells me that we can't talk any more. I was so confused considering she just said yesterday that she wanted to be friends, and despite me telling her all this bad stuff about her boyfriend. She said that "I need to get over her" even though I know what I need, and I don't NEED to do that. She had told me the day before that we could be friends even if I had feelings for her, so basically EVERYTHING is messed up now.
We aren't talking any more, and now I hate her. This sucks. This is absolutely NOT how I wanted this to happen. She always has to tell everything to her mom, who screws everything up. This absolutely sucks.
So then today I wake up to a text from my mom asking if I was ok. I said yes and asked why, and she told me that my ex's mom called her and told her that she was worried about me. Apparently they talked and they agreed that me and my ex shouldn't talk any more, at all. But I didn't know that til later, all my mom told me was that her mom called and was worried about me.
So then after school today I text her, and apparently her new boyfriend admitted to still having feelings for his ex. I truly felt bad for her, and wanted to make her feel better by sending her a gift that I had bought for her awhile ago. So I tell her I'm gonna make it up to her and send her something to make her happy. So literally, WHILE I am writing her a note and putting her address on the package, about to head out the door, she texts me and tells me that we can't talk any more. I was so confused considering she just said yesterday that she wanted to be friends, and despite me telling her all this bad stuff about her boyfriend. She said that "I need to get over her" even though I know what I need, and I don't NEED to do that. She had told me the day before that we could be friends even if I had feelings for her, so basically EVERYTHING is messed up now.
We aren't talking any more, and now I hate her. This sucks. This is absolutely NOT how I wanted this to happen. She always has to tell everything to her mom, who screws everything up. This absolutely sucks.
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And as an update... It gets even more messed up. This new guy\'s ex just texted me again saying that he cheated on her while she was away at college... He is such a terrible guy for her. If she stays with him she would be stupid.
Okay you really need to take a step back because from the looks of it things could get serious way fast. What I\'m more concerned about is that you might start being accused of stalking and harassment. I know its a really hard thing to understand because we all know that you wouldn\'t do that but your mom\'s start talking you have a serious problem.
You need to let her go in every way and I know it\'ll be really hard to do just as she has to let go of you. Your ex putting you through all this crap isn\'t fair specially telling you that you can \"still be friends\". She has absolutely no idea what a serious situation that she\'s putting you in.
But you also have to understand that your treading on very shaky ground and its better to start letting go now instead of being hurt and possibly in legal trouble in the future.
look, she knows and she likes it...all right...DITCH HER...just stop doing this to ur self...STOP BEING MEAN TO THE ONLY PERSON WHOM u should truly respect \"ur self obviously\"! u did all what u could do...thats it...its her choice, to be mersirable and to be cheated on...plz plz plz ditch her...plz...her actions are just immature..all right! she is not good for u....u will find a better friend and a better luvr...tust me
First off, quit buying her shit. if you want to make her feel better and truly be her friend, you would just sit, listen and let her get things out.
But with feelings, I can\'t believe it would be easy to do. Regardless if she is not with that dude, you can not be there for her and just expect or hope, that by you being by her, supporting her, and \"making her feel better\", that you\'s are gonna get back together. I don\'t mean to be mean, but it doesn\'t appear that is what she wants regardless.
I am sorry you are hurting, but it is probably best if you be the one who works at and knows, that you need to just walk away from her.
hang in there, bro