so how do i act?

For some time now... even before my recent miscarriage... I have been asking myself: 'how do i act to these young girls who are where i was at 20... thinking life will be flawless?' When I was 19 I met my ex-husband. at 21 we were engaged. I had a bright future. And all the women I worked with at the time who were over 30 said 'dont do it, you just dont even know.... dont do it...' I remember Toshia, my manager at Rave, telling me what life would really be like as an adult. And i thought she was so ridiculous. Her and others...I thought they were all unfortunate hags who couldnt possibly know what true love was, and if they were unhappy, surely they brought it upon themselves.  Then I got married. Holy shit, girls. dont do it. LOL...  But now here I am. Now I am the older jaded one at work. There are several girls there... 20 years old. getting married to men they will never live happy with. One is so clouded. She is a student. She has decided they will have a $60,000 wedding, move into the same subdivision I am in and have kids within 5 years. There is no telling her this isnt going to happen. First her fiance does what I did for a living. She thinks since he is union, he wont ever be laid off. Ohhhh to have her sense of security. Not to mention the economy... buying a house priced out of her league. And then the baby thing. I mean, it's not that I hope it doesn happen for her. I do... i really do. But let's face it. Nothing is perfect.  So when they tell me their fantastic plans I smile and say how wonderful I think it all is. In the back of my head im thinkin... where is Toshia when I need her.   Am I terrible. is there a chance these girls have what it takes. or (more importantly) found men who have what it takes. Life isn't perfect. as soon as we all gain the strength and capacity to accept it... I think we will all be happier. or at least less confused....