So beyond pissed
I seriously think my mother in law is losing her mind, not just "oh you've lost your mind" but out there in the twilight zone, bipolar-esque, way out in left field, where the hell did that come from, wtf, kinda losing her mind.
Earlier in the day while I was at work, my husband was talking to his dad about a guy who had emailed him wanting to come look at a motorcycle he had on craigslist. And before my husband could get "and I'm thinking seriously about selling it, because I know we need the money and with the money I would get I could get me a much cheaper bike, fix our car and get my daughter a car, and still have some money left over to help out with bills and all" out my mother in law starts harpy-screeching "Sell it, we need the money!" and started being hateful, so my husband was just like "okay" and left because he does not want to argue with his mom. (On a side note, she expects him to sell his bike and give HER all the money from it, and it makes her insane to know that that will NOT happen (as I refuse to allow it, but she still has it stuck in her head that despite ME telling her this that it all has to do with her son), which I will burn in hell with gasoline drawers on and a lit match hanging out of my ass before I give either of my in laws cash in hand...learned my lesson when I sold our other car to make sure they could make the tax property payment on the home/land and they wound up using it for something else. I told myself from then on that if they wanted a bill paid or wanted help with a bill that I would take the bill and go pay it, but never, EVER would I put another dollar into their hands expecting them to do with it what they say they will.) Apparently that pissed her off because he did not bite at her bait and argue back.
So...several hours later (almost 7-8 hours later) our son was disrespectful to my father in law (his grandfather, hubby's dad) and my husband had brought our son into our room to talk to him and let him know that he was not going to tolerate him being disrespectful to his dad. All this time our door was closed, but I am sure my mother in law heard him discipling our son. She then bursts through our bedroom door and flings a handful of papers at my husband screaming, "You need to go through this and find you some place to live." (and I mean that harpy like screech, and believe me it is a harpy like screech, nails on chalk board aint got nothing on her).
My husband was at his wits end with our son already, as our son has ADHD and they suspect ODD and had been giving my husband a hard time about the issue of respecting his grandfather, although granted as much shit as he has done I feel blessed that my son don't have more episodes of being disrespectful to his grandfather than he does, considering. He said he felt like the whole top of his head was going to pop off already (between our son and his chronic neck and shoulder pain since having a disc replaced with a metal "spacer") and he lost his cool and said "Well then FUCK YOU." and flipped her off. She proceeds to march around our room going "What did you say?" (I find this really really stupid on her part, acting like some billy badass, last time she and I argued and she said that to me I told her "you heard what I said and I didn't stutter." of course she repeated herself so I smart assed like slowed it down for her and asked her if she understood it then. :|) and was marching around the room looking around like she was looking for an ashtray or something to throw or hit him with (would not be the first time she has hit someone with an item or thick glass ashtray) looking all crazy as a fucking loon.
She eventually left the room when my husband would not say anything else to her, and then our son left the room so my husband went to close the door but heard his mom kinda start in on our son (she had walked by our son saying she hated him (her son) and enjoyed causing him misery and torturing him to which our son was like "Did I really hear you say that?" to which she replied "I sure did." and grinned like some sick sadistic fuck getting off on torturing some poor defenseless creature. Now our son is almost 13, and he is a really good kid and he loves his family dearly, so that was not sitting well with him and my husband saw the look on our son's face and circumvented any "leakage" that might have continued from our son.
Of course the minute my mother in law saw my husband she went to go back to him to start things up all over again, but my husband ran back to our room and shut the door right before she got there. That did not make her happy at all. After a few minutes he had to go to the bathroom and went and unlocked the door (his mom had gone to her room at this point) did what he needed and of course when he came out she was RIGHT FUCKING THERE WAITING! So he went to shut her out of our room again and grabbed the handle of the door but he was just a little too quick for her again. So since she could not continue her arguing she yelled through the door "Oh really, I got something for your ass motherfucker!" and went back to her room and called the police (and god only knows what she told them over the phone) so I'm sitting at my friends house the next street over and get a phone call from my husband that is mom is having a fit (he didn't know about the police being called when he called me) and I need to come home now.
So I leave and am driving down our road when I see my hubby walking down the road and halfway to where I had been. He gets in the car and proceeds to tell me that she had called the police. So we went back to the house and my husband went elsewhere off the property. The police finally started pulling into our driveway (and god I was so angry with his mom at this point I could have slapped the taste out of her mouth) so I went and told her (in a sarcastic, sing songy type tone ) "Linda, your little buddies are here." to which she goes "Uh who?" and again in a sarcastic tone "You know, your little friends, your little buddies, the police, don't you want to go out and talk to them, hmmm? I think you REALLY need to."
So when she goes out to talk to them (and of course I was RIGHT THERE) she told them, "well I tried to get them to call you guys back, that everything was all right" which of course they told her that when you call them and report domestic violence they have no choice but to come out and make sure everyone is ok. They also told her an argument and slamming doors was NOT a reason to call them. They ALSO told her after speaking to bother her and me that they considered HER the aggressor, because I told them how my husband was getting on our son about being disrespectful minding his own business and that she kept coming at him and would not leave him alone, throwing stacks of papers at him and walking around our room looking like she was trying to find something to hit him with (I told them about the call I received from my husband while at my friends house) and the look on her face when they told her that from what they can tell she was the aggressor told me that that was something she did not want to hear, and had this man been anything other than a police officer she would have argued with him on that, I'm so sure of it I would bet my left boob on it, the whole boob, not just the nipple.
So she decided that she was going to go stay at her brother's house for awhile. Now this is the brother (though she only has one..lol) that stole her pain meds when she was down with frozen shoulder, the same brother that stole my daughter's disability check out of the mail and got it cashed and fucked everything up for us all that month, the same brother that kept their mother drugged up on xanax as well as himself so that he wouldn't have to really take care of her (not a long of taking care to do with a dying person that sleeps all the time) and the list can go on and on with this piece of garbage she has for a brother...and not to mention as far as I know the asshole STILL has bedbugs...and HE was the one that had brought them to our house and was the cause of us winding up with our house on fire. But so be it...and I hope the bed bugs eat her ass up. I know this though, her "suitcase" ain't coming back in this house until I have inspected it and made DAMN sure that she isn't bringing them 8 legged, god forbidden, blood sucking monsters back into our house.
My mother in law had my husband when she was 15 and I swear to god it seems like she looks at him like the representation of her whole life of failures. Which she needs to look at herself. No one twisted her arm and made her open her window for my husbands dad, no one forced her to throw her ankles up by her ears, spread her legs and have sex. SHE did that, SHE chose to have sex without protection. My husband never asked to be born, she was even offered an abortion when she first found out she was pregnant. But SHE chose to keep the baby. For WHATEVER reason it was it don't matter, SHE made the choices.
I just don't understand how a grown person can sit there and in their fucked up head feel like they are justified in treating someone like shit because they want to blame someone else for their life not going like they wanted it to when it was THEIR choice, not the person they are tormenting, THEIR decisions that are the reason they are where they are today.
She even looked at me when we were talking to the police (after trying to tell them we have lived with her for 16 years, which of course is not true, but then it takes it out of the police's hands on the "I want him to leave" thing. The whole residence thing. But she told me that me and the kids could stay but my husband had to go. The officer told her as politely as he could (after listening to her rant about how she resented her son (basically not doing things the way she wanted him to do them, the ole, my way or the highway shit) "Mam, somehow I don't think you are going to split up this family. That's just not going to work." I wanted to laugh, I swear to God I did, but I kept my composure.
This is not the first time the police have labeled her as the aggressor. Many many years ago she started and argument with me and try as I might I could not get away from her, so I tried to call someone to come get me and my kids outta her house and she proceeded to start smacking me in the head telling me I wasn't using her shit. I got her off of me without hurting her at all. Then she threw soda in my face and my father in law got between us, why I don't know (maybe she was going to try to attack me while blinded) but all I knew was someone was grabbing me and I couldn't see and I wound up punching my father in law in the face so hard I knocked his glasses into the next room and bloodied his nose, he wasn't mad at me, mainly because as soon as I could see and knew it was him I hit I apologized because I did not mean to hit him, I thought she had jumped up trying to do something else to me. Then she wanted to march around the house going "Look what you did bitch!" (talking about my father in law) to which I replied "No bitch, this is all YOUR fault, own it!" so then she slapped me in the face and told me she had called the cops. So I felt like ok I got your now, and was going to let her continue to hit me as much as she wanted so that when the cops showed up they would catch HER in the act of her craziness and it would be on HER. When the police got there they told me that she had tried to say that I was drunk and some other stuff I don't even remember now. But I do remember that they told her "Mam, YOU are the aggressor in this situation, I see no marks on you, but your daughter in law is soaked to the bone with soda and has a great big red handprint across her face and a small lump on her head (from where she had hit me with a peroxide bottle). From what we can tell SHE is the victim and the best you can do right now is HOPE she don't want to press charges against you, because if she does, we have NO CHOICE but to take you in."
So now this is twice she has called the cops, and twice they have labeled her as the aggressor and twice they have warned her about "false reports". I don't know how other counties/states are about "false reports" (or wasting police officers time) but around here once you get to your 3 rd time they want to charge you.
Why can't things just be simple and people treat each other they way they want to be treated? What the fuck is wrong with this woman, I mean seriously.
I'm just so seriously sick of the bullshit.
Earlier in the day while I was at work, my husband was talking to his dad about a guy who had emailed him wanting to come look at a motorcycle he had on craigslist. And before my husband could get "and I'm thinking seriously about selling it, because I know we need the money and with the money I would get I could get me a much cheaper bike, fix our car and get my daughter a car, and still have some money left over to help out with bills and all" out my mother in law starts harpy-screeching "Sell it, we need the money!" and started being hateful, so my husband was just like "okay" and left because he does not want to argue with his mom. (On a side note, she expects him to sell his bike and give HER all the money from it, and it makes her insane to know that that will NOT happen (as I refuse to allow it, but she still has it stuck in her head that despite ME telling her this that it all has to do with her son), which I will burn in hell with gasoline drawers on and a lit match hanging out of my ass before I give either of my in laws cash in hand...learned my lesson when I sold our other car to make sure they could make the tax property payment on the home/land and they wound up using it for something else. I told myself from then on that if they wanted a bill paid or wanted help with a bill that I would take the bill and go pay it, but never, EVER would I put another dollar into their hands expecting them to do with it what they say they will.) Apparently that pissed her off because he did not bite at her bait and argue back.
So...several hours later (almost 7-8 hours later) our son was disrespectful to my father in law (his grandfather, hubby's dad) and my husband had brought our son into our room to talk to him and let him know that he was not going to tolerate him being disrespectful to his dad. All this time our door was closed, but I am sure my mother in law heard him discipling our son. She then bursts through our bedroom door and flings a handful of papers at my husband screaming, "You need to go through this and find you some place to live." (and I mean that harpy like screech, and believe me it is a harpy like screech, nails on chalk board aint got nothing on her).
My husband was at his wits end with our son already, as our son has ADHD and they suspect ODD and had been giving my husband a hard time about the issue of respecting his grandfather, although granted as much shit as he has done I feel blessed that my son don't have more episodes of being disrespectful to his grandfather than he does, considering. He said he felt like the whole top of his head was going to pop off already (between our son and his chronic neck and shoulder pain since having a disc replaced with a metal "spacer") and he lost his cool and said "Well then FUCK YOU." and flipped her off. She proceeds to march around our room going "What did you say?" (I find this really really stupid on her part, acting like some billy badass, last time she and I argued and she said that to me I told her "you heard what I said and I didn't stutter." of course she repeated herself so I smart assed like slowed it down for her and asked her if she understood it then. :|) and was marching around the room looking around like she was looking for an ashtray or something to throw or hit him with (would not be the first time she has hit someone with an item or thick glass ashtray) looking all crazy as a fucking loon.
She eventually left the room when my husband would not say anything else to her, and then our son left the room so my husband went to close the door but heard his mom kinda start in on our son (she had walked by our son saying she hated him (her son) and enjoyed causing him misery and torturing him to which our son was like "Did I really hear you say that?" to which she replied "I sure did." and grinned like some sick sadistic fuck getting off on torturing some poor defenseless creature. Now our son is almost 13, and he is a really good kid and he loves his family dearly, so that was not sitting well with him and my husband saw the look on our son's face and circumvented any "leakage" that might have continued from our son.
Of course the minute my mother in law saw my husband she went to go back to him to start things up all over again, but my husband ran back to our room and shut the door right before she got there. That did not make her happy at all. After a few minutes he had to go to the bathroom and went and unlocked the door (his mom had gone to her room at this point) did what he needed and of course when he came out she was RIGHT FUCKING THERE WAITING! So he went to shut her out of our room again and grabbed the handle of the door but he was just a little too quick for her again. So since she could not continue her arguing she yelled through the door "Oh really, I got something for your ass motherfucker!" and went back to her room and called the police (and god only knows what she told them over the phone) so I'm sitting at my friends house the next street over and get a phone call from my husband that is mom is having a fit (he didn't know about the police being called when he called me) and I need to come home now.
So I leave and am driving down our road when I see my hubby walking down the road and halfway to where I had been. He gets in the car and proceeds to tell me that she had called the police. So we went back to the house and my husband went elsewhere off the property. The police finally started pulling into our driveway (and god I was so angry with his mom at this point I could have slapped the taste out of her mouth) so I went and told her (in a sarcastic, sing songy type tone ) "Linda, your little buddies are here." to which she goes "Uh who?" and again in a sarcastic tone "You know, your little friends, your little buddies, the police, don't you want to go out and talk to them, hmmm? I think you REALLY need to."
So when she goes out to talk to them (and of course I was RIGHT THERE) she told them, "well I tried to get them to call you guys back, that everything was all right" which of course they told her that when you call them and report domestic violence they have no choice but to come out and make sure everyone is ok. They also told her an argument and slamming doors was NOT a reason to call them. They ALSO told her after speaking to bother her and me that they considered HER the aggressor, because I told them how my husband was getting on our son about being disrespectful minding his own business and that she kept coming at him and would not leave him alone, throwing stacks of papers at him and walking around our room looking like she was trying to find something to hit him with (I told them about the call I received from my husband while at my friends house) and the look on her face when they told her that from what they can tell she was the aggressor told me that that was something she did not want to hear, and had this man been anything other than a police officer she would have argued with him on that, I'm so sure of it I would bet my left boob on it, the whole boob, not just the nipple.
So she decided that she was going to go stay at her brother's house for awhile. Now this is the brother (though she only has one..lol) that stole her pain meds when she was down with frozen shoulder, the same brother that stole my daughter's disability check out of the mail and got it cashed and fucked everything up for us all that month, the same brother that kept their mother drugged up on xanax as well as himself so that he wouldn't have to really take care of her (not a long of taking care to do with a dying person that sleeps all the time) and the list can go on and on with this piece of garbage she has for a brother...and not to mention as far as I know the asshole STILL has bedbugs...and HE was the one that had brought them to our house and was the cause of us winding up with our house on fire. But so be it...and I hope the bed bugs eat her ass up. I know this though, her "suitcase" ain't coming back in this house until I have inspected it and made DAMN sure that she isn't bringing them 8 legged, god forbidden, blood sucking monsters back into our house.
My mother in law had my husband when she was 15 and I swear to god it seems like she looks at him like the representation of her whole life of failures. Which she needs to look at herself. No one twisted her arm and made her open her window for my husbands dad, no one forced her to throw her ankles up by her ears, spread her legs and have sex. SHE did that, SHE chose to have sex without protection. My husband never asked to be born, she was even offered an abortion when she first found out she was pregnant. But SHE chose to keep the baby. For WHATEVER reason it was it don't matter, SHE made the choices.
I just don't understand how a grown person can sit there and in their fucked up head feel like they are justified in treating someone like shit because they want to blame someone else for their life not going like they wanted it to when it was THEIR choice, not the person they are tormenting, THEIR decisions that are the reason they are where they are today.
She even looked at me when we were talking to the police (after trying to tell them we have lived with her for 16 years, which of course is not true, but then it takes it out of the police's hands on the "I want him to leave" thing. The whole residence thing. But she told me that me and the kids could stay but my husband had to go. The officer told her as politely as he could (after listening to her rant about how she resented her son (basically not doing things the way she wanted him to do them, the ole, my way or the highway shit) "Mam, somehow I don't think you are going to split up this family. That's just not going to work." I wanted to laugh, I swear to God I did, but I kept my composure.
This is not the first time the police have labeled her as the aggressor. Many many years ago she started and argument with me and try as I might I could not get away from her, so I tried to call someone to come get me and my kids outta her house and she proceeded to start smacking me in the head telling me I wasn't using her shit. I got her off of me without hurting her at all. Then she threw soda in my face and my father in law got between us, why I don't know (maybe she was going to try to attack me while blinded) but all I knew was someone was grabbing me and I couldn't see and I wound up punching my father in law in the face so hard I knocked his glasses into the next room and bloodied his nose, he wasn't mad at me, mainly because as soon as I could see and knew it was him I hit I apologized because I did not mean to hit him, I thought she had jumped up trying to do something else to me. Then she wanted to march around the house going "Look what you did bitch!" (talking about my father in law) to which I replied "No bitch, this is all YOUR fault, own it!" so then she slapped me in the face and told me she had called the cops. So I felt like ok I got your now, and was going to let her continue to hit me as much as she wanted so that when the cops showed up they would catch HER in the act of her craziness and it would be on HER. When the police got there they told me that she had tried to say that I was drunk and some other stuff I don't even remember now. But I do remember that they told her "Mam, YOU are the aggressor in this situation, I see no marks on you, but your daughter in law is soaked to the bone with soda and has a great big red handprint across her face and a small lump on her head (from where she had hit me with a peroxide bottle). From what we can tell SHE is the victim and the best you can do right now is HOPE she don't want to press charges against you, because if she does, we have NO CHOICE but to take you in."
So now this is twice she has called the cops, and twice they have labeled her as the aggressor and twice they have warned her about "false reports". I don't know how other counties/states are about "false reports" (or wasting police officers time) but around here once you get to your 3 rd time they want to charge you.
Why can't things just be simple and people treat each other they way they want to be treated? What the fuck is wrong with this woman, I mean seriously.
I'm just so seriously sick of the bullshit.
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