so about the appt

So the Dr's appt didnt go all that well.  The first thing the Dr. Does is start throwing statisics at me... hello Im an infertile women not a bunch of numbers, Im sick of numbers. The first thing he told me is that statistically I should be able to have a baby on my own if I keep trying and that would be the least invasive way to have a child ( duh, like I dont know this)  Then he said that when I reach my limit on having miscarriages that I could come back ( apparently 5 isnt the going rate, did I tell you guys I got another positive test, so yeah Ive had 5 now b/c im bleeding) Anywho I was overall dissapointed b\c I thought that this place would feel so much better than my reg Dr.s office instead of being surrounded by pregnant women( no offense preggos you know what I mean) I would be surrounded by people who know how Im feeling, but not so much. I also found out recently that my great grandmother had 3 stillbirths, sense this is genetic I just know I got this from her, I told the dr that was a concern of mine and he said not to worry that they had testing and that they wouldnt  "let" me get that far... excuse me but what I think he was trying to say was that we could abort the baby, right........... no thanks Ill take my chances. The nurse that I was assigned to also sat me down and said " hunny I dont want you to worry, I see so many people that cant get pregnant come in here and boom the next month they are pregnant"  which is nice of her if getting pregnant was my problem.... the way I see it Im paying good $ to come to this office thats over an hour away, take the time to read my chart and know that I can get pregnant I just lose them all. maybe my standards are set too high for the medical professionals but my mother has been a hospice nurse for 10 years now and she treats many people with cancer but she doesnt walk into a room where somebody has breast cancer and treat them for lung cancer, she knows all about them before she treats them, and she does it with love and concern, is that so much to ask? So were back to square one, I dont know what I want to do. blah blah blah poor me :)

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I\'m so sorry. That sucks! I can\'t believe he wouldn\'t offer more info or help. I HATE it when they talk statistics! I don\'t believe in them b/c everyone is different. When I went to the RE, he started with stats on me and I let him know real quick that I didn\'t believe in them. I felt like they had me not getting pg from the beginning and I proved them wrong. I knew I could do this, but I just neede their help. Well, here I am pg and did prove them and their stats wrong.... So, don\'t give up hope and fight for what you feel you need from them. I wish you lots and lots of STICKY baby dust! You WILL be a mother!
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That sounds awful! At my RE they say if you have 3 or more m/c they look into it and try to be more proactive. I hope they can help you.
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Hang in there. You need to decide how much more you can handle. I couldn\'t handle it anymore so that is why we decided just to go for the gusto and do IVF. Either way you go is going to be the right way for you. Only YOU can decide.
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Oh hon I\'m so sorry that this wasn\'t the place for you. Did you tell the doctor that you are at your limit on miscarriages? You can so tell that he is a man by the things he said to you. All I can say is keep up your awesome attitude. You are an inspiration to me. Maybe you could try another specialist and get a second opinion. I mean really what are they there for.
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That is so frustrating! I\'m sorry you had a bad experience at the dr. Maybe you should look into going somewhere else. My first RE appt. was very informative and comforting. I can\'t believe they said a limit on m/c! I only had two and they completely understood that that was two too many and that I couldn\'t handle anymore and moved right on to the next step. I\'m really sorry they made you feel crappy. It should have been the exact opposite. I\'m also sorry you got another positive and know youre m/c again. My heart aches for you. You know I love ya and I\'m always here for you!
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I agree with Noeashly06. This is frustrating. I was getting frustrated reading your story. My heart really goes out to you and your DH. I pray that things get better for you.
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I AGREE ABOUT THE NUMBERS THING..ALL OF US ARE DIFFERENT. NUMBERS HAVE NO MEANING UNLESS YOU ARE COMPARED TO THE EXACT SAME PERSON AS YOURSELF..I HOPE THAT YOU WILL FIND SOME COMFORT IN NEXT VISIT TO THE DOCTOR..GOOD LUCK!!!