sick of it

i am so sick of all of this, yes the past month has been nice and quiet and of course he's back now, telling me the laundry needs to be done, the house is a mess when are you going to clean it, mean while he is home all day every day and does mostly nothing. He can't even take out the can bag, instead decides to put empty cans on the stove because the bin is full, wth. Seriously, just irritating, grow the fuck up, and be a man. So i thought, well he is doing so good lately and just kind of put leaving on the back burner and decided to see how it would go, never the less disappointed again. Its always the same thing, i never do enough, or need to get in shape so i have more energy to do things around the house, i have had major work done on my teeth done in the past month and the pain has been tremendous, he was understanding when the pain was excruciating but now that we figured out the problem, now back to same old same old, I don't have any shirts to wear in my closet, he says. So what I don't either but guess what i have done some laundry just haven't gotten it put away and he just wont pick clothes out of a basket to wear, they are folded mind you. He says he would do laundry if i took it all down to the basement but why can't he, nobody takes it down for me or puts it away for me, its always me having to do everything. Take care of him like he's a child, I have a child he's a 8 year old and i expect to take care of him but not a grown man, I didn't marry a child and didn't expect to have to take care of a grown man, my momma taught me how to be self sufficient, and he says that he has done so much work growing up for chores around his house, he shouldn't have to do them now, REALLY, REALLY???!! No just expect your wife to do everything for you, cook, clean, laundry, take care of everything and then some. I can't take this much more, counseling at the womens center is not helping, talking to friends and family isn't helping anymore, I just am so fed up I don't even know what to do or where to start, please some one just rescue me. I though even know thats not possible, its all up to me, as usual. Maybe I'm riding the pity train today Idk, but i'm just so lost, tired, confused, annoyed, with him and myself, and i know i should take it easy on myself but this is totally sickening, Im sure you all know what i mean.
You all have been such great help, it seems this is the only place that I feel comfortable to be able to express my true feelings and know you all have been there and your advice means the world to me. It's just that I'm starting to feel like maybe he's not so bad and I just don't do enough around the house and maybe i am just the lazy wife, granted i don't do what i use to but thats because i am so depressed and anxiety ridden i do not have energy to do anything, just enough to take care of my son and get out of bed and go to work because its my only escape.