Shocked Today

I was with my wife today, doing some shopping after church.  We were in a store and I saw a lady come in the doorway and for a moment, I thought she kind of resembled my first wife.  Behind her was another tall dark haired girl and a little girl of about 12 or 13.  I looked back at the checker and then glanced back at the door way and her comes my oldest daughter and my grandaughter towards me.  The lady in front of them was my ex-wife of 38 years ago.
I was terrible shocked at what she looked like.  She has lost probably 40 to 60 lbs at least.  Her face was drawn and I hardly recognized her at all.  My daughter and my grand-daughter gave me a hug and hugged my current wife.  I looked at my daughter and said "my, your mom has lost so much weight.  She said dad, the last 6 weeks have really been tough.  My ex lost her husband 6 weeks ago.   I sent her a beautiful sympathy card when I heard of his death.   I had no idea that she had lost so much and looked so bad.  I couldn't believe it.
The first thing that entered my mind was how sad, old, and lonely she looked. I was staring at my hight school sweetheart that I had married 46 years ago. I guess she and her husband had a happy marriage, I really don't know.  She has hated me for years, spread lies about me and has tried to run me down ever chance she could to everyone for years.  Another thought that crossed my mind was that when our youngest son was killed 5 years ago, she never lost any weight when he died.  I guess she showed more remorse for the loss of her husband than she did her son.  That to me, is sad and tragic.
I can't help but feel sorry for her in many ways.  Her lifestyle over the years, the way she has treated me since we were married and over the past 38 years that we have been divorced, have taken their toll I guess.
Life has many sad times and through all she put me through years ago and since, I never caused her any problems on a personal level, or ever treated her husband bad.  As a matter of fact, I think he was a pretty nice guy.  I always showed him respect as he did me and we talked at times.  I feel sorry for my daughter because she is about all my ex has left.  Her oldest son seldom comes to see her and she basically has alienated herself from our youngest son's kids, since he was killed.   As I said, ths was really shocking for me to see today.  I told my daughter I would pray for her mom.

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I would think that she has lost twofold...or maybe so much more. As a mother, I cannot relate to a mother who does not grieve the tragic death of her child. I am glad to know you have moved on and have a secure and happy marriage...but most of all, a forgiving heart because Jesus dwells in you. Have a good day....God bless, dale, brandon\'s mom
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God bless you, Oldbiker, for being kind and gracious when you didn\'t have to be... Grief is a wonderful weight loss program, but I don\'t recommend it...
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you still compassonte after all you been though, hugs wendy