She held the keys
This week has been one on the toughest so far. I finally started talking to my wife and had really thought i was making a little headway. we talked about maybe going to go see a counselor. she said that she was having to move everything back and that she was tired and wanted us to atleast try to work this out someway without costing us a fortune. I gave her the keys and told her that since she was saying she was going to get rid of her lawyer then i would put everything on hold, (not drop it) and we could get counseling and maybe try. I even went to far as to say I was going to be everything for her, i was going to do it all, if she would just come home.
well I felt as if I cried out to God more in those 2 days asking for him to help me and asking for him to touch her heart. Friday comes around and I have to take my little girl to counseling. so after i talked to the counselor about my feelings, i was a little mad because she made me see things i didnt want to see so when my wife called i point blank asked her what was she going to do about moving home, she told me she was going to leave her stuff in pa in her house and just live here for a little bit.
I was brokenhearted so i said well, you wouldve had everything, you deserve to live there with your child molester that has ruined the lives of all three of your kids. i am so serious, i really think she needs to see a doctor about her lack of thinking. how can a woman in her right mind go and do this? leave her 4 year old and go back to that, I have been deceived for a very long time. She doesnt deserve me. Someone who worshiped the ground she walked on so to speak.
well I felt as if I cried out to God more in those 2 days asking for him to help me and asking for him to touch her heart. Friday comes around and I have to take my little girl to counseling. so after i talked to the counselor about my feelings, i was a little mad because she made me see things i didnt want to see so when my wife called i point blank asked her what was she going to do about moving home, she told me she was going to leave her stuff in pa in her house and just live here for a little bit.
I was brokenhearted so i said well, you wouldve had everything, you deserve to live there with your child molester that has ruined the lives of all three of your kids. i am so serious, i really think she needs to see a doctor about her lack of thinking. how can a woman in her right mind go and do this? leave her 4 year old and go back to that, I have been deceived for a very long time. She doesnt deserve me. Someone who worshiped the ground she walked on so to speak.
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I am glad you spoke to the counselor. They see a lot of situations and, like you found out, can point out things that you are refusing to see due to your pain and loneliness.
Your wife has shown you who she is. She is not the image that you hold in your head, the person you thought she was married too.
She is a woman who would choose to be with a convicted child molester, who would put her own child at risk for her own selfish desires. She is a person who would treat the person she is married to with coldness and callousness.
I don\'t know anything about her but what you have written. Maybe she is a wonderful person in many aspects. What you have said shows her to be a disgustingly selfish individual.
So my friend I am going to be blunt. YOU NEED TO STOP HAVING ANY CONTACTING HER. You are damaging yourself.
From the interactions I have seen on this site, you are a good and worthy man. You are strong and caring. If you get past this and put her into your rear view mirror, you will be better off.